The benefits of talking about masturbation with a potential partner
If you're reading this and considering getting "into a relationship" with someone, whether that "relationship" is hetero or gay or whatever, I sincerely urge you to have a conversation about masturbation at some point, before you start shacking-up or taking vows.
Because, if you're passionate about your solo sex, do you want to keep it a secret from this other person? I guarantee you, that's not a viable strategy. You will out yourself at some point. And it may not go well.
Before we chose to get married, we had already "come out" to one another about masturbation. That we both enjoyed it. That we had no intention of giving it all up, just because we could now have unlimited intercourse and oral. Masturbation - to us - was never a "substitute" for anything. We wanted it all; fucking, sucking and masturbation.
Believe me, if you start revealing your true selves to each other and the other person freaks when you tell them you enjoy beating your meat (or making love to it), then perhaps they aren't the person you're looking for, even if they're physically attractive.
And here's the icing on the cake: when my wife finally got to the point where her vaginal tissues wouldn't sustain the kind of vigorous fucking she'd always enjoyed, she suggested we just enjoy more masturbation. Is that a win-win, or what?
So, talk about it. Be honest. That's usually the best way to go.
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