Virtual Guided Yoni Self-Massage / Tantric Massage

Tantric masturbation has always fascinated me.  It is something that I practice myself.  I have also studied and practiced giving Tantric massage and Yoni massage for many years. It's a very rewarding experience giving others so much relaxation and pleasure at the same time. 

But Tantric masturbation/Yoni (vulva/vaginal) or Lingham (penis) Self-Massage is about giving yourself that same kind of relaxing, connecting, mindful, arousing touch all over your body.  The official goal is not orgasm (although strong orgasms are very likely) but rather to achieve and maintain a heightened and lengthened state of arousal, or "bliss" state.  It is masturbation focusing on your present sensations throughout your body. It's beautiful and not "dirty." It's all about mindfulness and deep connection with your mind and body.  It can be very emotionally, spiritually, physically and sexually healing and arousing for those who practice it.

While I practice it myself, I also guide others in it (in-person or virtually).  Guided Tantric masturbation / Yoni Self massage can be incredibly erotic, arousing, and even healing, especially to those who enjoy being seen and instructed.  It begins by setting up the space in a peaceful, relaxing way.  One might light candles or set the lights low, perhaps have some relaxing spa/instrumental music low in the background, maybe burn incense or light a scented candle or spray some perfume for a relaxing scent, whatever you choose. This all helps put your mind and body in a state of relaxation and mindfulness and brings it to the present. It is also good to have some liquid coconut or massage oil, lotion, and/or water-based lubricant at arms reach should you need or desire it or are even instructed to use it.  You also want to have some pillows to put behind you to raise your head or allow you to sit up a bit.  You might be on your bed or couch or on the floor, just find a comfortable space.  

As you remove your clothing, you may be guided to think about it as taking off the "armor" you wore to protect yourself from the "arrows" being shot at you in life, at work, at school or wherever you may have been during the day.  Now though, you are in a safe place where you can be open and vulnerable, completely yourself.  You notice how your body and bare skin feels and reacts to the air hitting it in places you hadn't felt that throughout the day and may notice any goosebumps that may form or how your nipples maybe reacting to being exposed.  You then lay back on your bed, couch or floor, get comfortable, enjoy looking at your body, accept it, appreciate it. It's yours to take care of, touch, explore and enjoy. You work toward sheddding any shame or guilt you may feel from masturbation. Many of us are or were shamed for doing it at times in the past or even presently. There is nothing wrong with masturbation at all.  In fact, it is healthy, beautiful, and healing. It is a wonderful connection with your body.  Our bodies were made to be enjoyed! The clitoris' only purpose is to give pleasure, and that is proof to me that our bodies were made to be enjoyed and explored. This understanding and mindset is very important in fully experiencing and enjoying the healing and high arousal of Tantric masturbation. 

From here, you are guided to focus on your breathing as you explore your body with your fingertips and discover or rediscover and enjoy your erogenous zones throughout your body. I start by guiding the person to start at their face and neck and very, very gradually work your way down. You lightly run your fingertips along curves and creases, where different body parts meet others. These tend to be erogenous zones where you feel tingles and goosebumps and feelings of arousal and excitement.  You touch where you enjoy being kissed lightly or touched by another.  Your guide may have you start with places that are typically exposed when you wear clothes then very gradually move to areas that are usually clothed.  You may notice that your body gradually becomes more sensitive and receptive to this light touch.  What may at first feel a little ticklish will then become arousing as your body recalibrates itself to receive this light touch, understanding it now as healing, safe, and arousing touch as your mind and body further relaxes and becomes more sensitive.

Eventually, you would be guided to move to your breasts, starting by lightly tracing your fingertips around the outside and underside curves and creases of your breasts and gradually moving inward.  The entire session your guide will be paying close attention to your breathing, perhaps guiding your breathing, breathing with you, encouraging you throughout the experience, giving you positive affirmations, having you enjoy and explore different areas of your body more than you may normally, guide you in touching your body in different ways and pressures. They may at times ask how you are feeling, what you are feeling, how sensitive a particular area is for you, etc.  Communication is very important throughout the experience. 

You will then be guided to move further down your body, exploring and enjoying your sides, stomach, hips, pubic mound, inner thighs, and then finally your Yoni.  

"Yoni" translated from Sanskrit means "sacred space" or "sacred temple." It traditionally refers the whole complex of your outer labia, inner labia, clitoris, vagina, and even womb.   Your Yoni (vulva/vagina)  should be treated with care, respect, reverence, and and appreciation for all the pleasure it can give you. And it is treated this way by both you and the guide throughout a guided Yoni Self-Massage session.  It is touched in many ways with your hand as you rediscover where it feels most pleasurable and sensitive, noticing how it changes and reacts to different touches in different places. It can be such an intimate, beautiful experience that usually culminates in a very strong orgasmic release of deeply held internal tension as you appreciate the joy and pleasure it gives you and has always given you through this special celebration of your femininity and sexuality.

As both a practitioner and guide myself, it is so incredibly fulfilling for me to lead others in this exploration of their body and trying something fresh and new to enjoy about the wonderful, beautiful act of masturbation. As much as I enjoy Tantric masturbation myself, guiding others in it is very rewarding, seeing the joy on their faces as they connect and rediscover themselves in such a special way.