Use It or Lose It - Changes as I Have Aged

Now in my sixties, I enjoy reading stories on SoloTouch that mature ladies and gentlemen of my general age are willing to share. I find that there are many stories that I can relate to, including having a spouse or partner who has experienced a loss of libido. My wife and I have enjoyed a long and loving marriage with a good sex life. She has especially enjoyed when I have performed oral sex for her, with very sensual clitoral orgasms. Through the years, it was a favorite of mine also. About 10 years ago, she lost her interest in sex. I continued my interest with solo pleasure. In an effort to try something fresh and helpful, I surprised her with a unique, high quality vibrating toy from a Swedish company. She had not tried any toys to that point in her life. She told me that she loved the new toy, but would only use it by herself, in private. While she enjoyed the toy, she was not interested in sharing any sexual antics with me. Occasionally I would see her toy recharging or that it had been moved to a new location, and I figured that she was indeed using it. At least she was finding her own sexual satisfaction, and for that I was happy. Over the years, I too have experienced changes in my solo performance. At 40 I had a vasectomy, and that diminished somewhat the once copious volume that I used to cum. I continued to enjoy ejaculating what I could, as much as I could. It still felt great. Most of my career involved long days. Responsibilities increased, commitments increased, stress increased, and my free time decreased. The only time I found to satisfy my sexual urges were on weekends, and even then, I was lucky to fit in a single masturbation session per week. I had developed a need for a specialty doctor, and she prescribed a medication for high blood pressure. That resulted in erectile dysfunction for me. I felt that I had lost a good friend. I felt inadequate. But I needed to take the medication for my high blood pressure. My doctor followed up with me on the results of the high blood pressure medication. She asked a lot of questions, including if I had noticed any changes related to erectile dysfunction. I told her that I did see a change, but that it is not a problem, because my wife was no longer interested anyway. A younger woman, and quite insightful, the doctor said that this was a common side effect of some medications for high blood pressure. She said that even though my wife may not be interested, I should be able to continue enjoying the things I like. She prescribed a common medication for erectile dysfunction. The erectile dysfunction medication worked very effectively. However, some side effects were significant for me. I experienced very stuffy sinuses and bad headaches, whenever I took the medication. I just decided that it was not worth the uncomfortable side effects. As my doctor decided to move into medical research, a new specialty doctor was assigned to replace her. He asked how the erectile dysfunction medication was working. I explained the side effects and told him that I had decided that it was not worth it. My new doctor changed the medication for high blood pressure, and said that I should notice an improvement. The improvement was significant. I had no need for any medication for erectile dysfunction, as it was no longer a problem at all. I was happily back in the game, even though solo. Over time, I noticed that my orgasms were changing. The distance of my ejaculations, and the volume, had diminished. I determined that these were age related changes. However, the strong satisfaction of my orgasms were as powerful as they had always felt. Just less semen was produced, and it no longer spurted any real distance. This was the new normal for me. Along came a well earned retirement, and some additional changes have been noticed. It’s a funny thing, what effects stress can have on us. And when stress is removed, results are quite interesting. After the first year of my retirement, I noticed that I was awaking each morning with a hard, erect penis, rather than a flaccid penis. That has continued to this day, every morning. I believe that it could be attributed to the removal of stress in my life. My wife is younger than I am, and is still working. Though I am quite busy with my own projects, and community service, I now have free time to relax and enjoy some good masturbation sessions while around home alone. I usually enjoy this several times each week, but sometimes it feels good to hold back for a week. After the morning wood has subsided, stimulation is now helpful to get and stay hard. The ability to just think of something sexual and achieve an erection is not always sufficient now. More often, I need to supplement with touch or play. Home alone, I can recall stimulating past experiences throughout my life, or I may read some stimulating stories. I have found that it feels good to maintain semi-hard firmness and fullness as I am doing other things. I may choose to edge for a couple of hours. My time is now mostly my own, and I am making the most of that enjoyment. When describing the many changes we experience as we age, many suggest... Use It or Lose It. I fully agree, and am practicing that each week. It is healthy and enjoyable to keep everything working as well as possible, especially as we advance in age, knowledge, and experience. -McGuinness