Toy Story

Over the past 10 to 15 years, my wife has lost most of her previous interests in sexual pleasure.

In an effort to hopefully find something that may restore some kind of personal pleasure for her, I started a search for reviews and ratings on intimate pleasure toys for women.

This idea had some risk, as my wife has had no previous experience with personal pleasure toys of any kind. Her sexual pleasure had previously been derived only from herself, or from me. I had no idea if she would have an interest in trying a sex toy.

In my research, I found some very good reviews of innovative products made by a Swedish company headquartered in Stockholm.

With the advantage of user reviews, I ordered a toy of unique, simple design and small size, made for clitoral massage. It resembles a stylized lily leaf, in a curved shape. The toy offers multiple speed vibration, intensity, and interval selections. It is also rechargeable and waterproof.

Thinking of her previous sexual interests, preferences, and enjoyment, I was hopeful that a toy designed for clitoral stimulation would be a good choice for my love.

My wife was quite surprised when she opened the gift from me. She appeared a little embarrassed. Blushing, she could not believe that I had come up with such a gift. But I saw an interest in her eyes, and she had a lovely smile.

We tried the toy that night, together. We used the various multiple speed intensities and the multiple interval vibration selections. After several minutes of massage all over her pussy, my love was moaning in pleasure and experienced a very powerful orgasm. She could not believe that she came so quickly, and so hard.

After she calmed, I resumed with moving the small vibrator gently and lightly around her pussy, and she started to moan again. This was something new.

In previous years, when my wife had interest in sexual pleasure, she would typically have one big orgasm only, and then she was done. She had explained to me that a single, strong orgasm is enough to satisfy her completely. Her sensitivity would deter more.

That night, with the vibrating toy, she appeared to enjoy the continued stimulation and the varied vibrations around her pussy and clitoris. She slowly built up to a surprising second, more intense, orgasm. She was amazed, and so was I.

The toy appeared to be a game changer for her.

I thought that this new interest in using the toy may continue to be a shared experience for us. But she told me that she preferred to use the toy in private, not with me right there. She felt more comfortable with using the toy when she is alone, she explained.

I was just happy that there appeared to be a renewed interest in her personal sexual pleasure.

Since that first experience, I have noticed that the toy, in its little satin bag, has been occasionally moved around in different locations. This has indicated to me that it was likely being used, at least occasionally. My wife does not like to talk about it, and I respect that.

I know that her religious background has had a lasting effect on my wife’s perceptions of personal pleasure. Her comfort level in talking about her sexual pleasure is quite sensitive.

Having experienced this apparent new interest by my wife, I shared my discovery with my close friend and confidant, Lesley. I have known Lesley longer than I have known my wife, and we share a great friendship. Her insight, from her female perspective, has been very helpful to my relationship with my wife through the years.

Lesley has had a long distance relationship with her lover, and I thought that she may be interested in my findings related to sexual pleasure toys.

We discussed the toy research, and the results that my wife had initially experienced. Lesley proceeded to do her own research, and had decided to try a different model of clitoral vibrator for herself, from the same company.

After the first test use of her new toy I received a message from Lesley. “OMG, this thing is amazing! Within about seven hot minutes... It is just amazing!”

Lesley shared her new toy experience with another close female friend of hers, and her friend has found a similar experience.

From my perspective, it is good to hear how the right toy can bring wonderful pleasure to women.

I understand that many of us may experience an interest or a need to alter our source of sexual pleasure, especially as we age. Either with a partner, or solo. It’s good to know that there are alternatives, in the form of sexual toys, for sexual pleasure.

For my friend Lesley, last week she told me that she is now shopping for a toy for couples that can benefit both her lover and herself, together.

For my lovely wife, I have noticed that the little satin toy bag has not moved positions in quite a while. It may be that the toy is no longer the game changer that it had initially appeared to be.  Maybe it is not for her.

As a loving husband, I keep searching and trying. 

Will there be a sequel to this toy story? We shall see. 

-McGuinness