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The Men's Club Part I: Helping Our Wives

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This three-part series is a collaborative project by two ST-ers, Maturebator and Patrick.  It’s based on a composite of real events and conversations, although the location, setting and names have been changed.  We've put this in the Male-Female story category but it also falls under 'Sex Stories.'


Our setting here is one of those mega-retirement communities in California, where the typical age is between 60 and 80.  It’s large enough so that all sorts of interest groups have formed over time.  As it happens, a couple of us started what we euphemistically refer to as The Men’s Club.  We actually launched it so that we could have free-wheeling conversations about a variety of topics relating to – what else – sex, as well as to enjoy nude bathing and a free-wheeling ‘interactive’ circle jerk to finish off each meeting..  We’ve been doing this for close to 4 years, and have a pretty steady membership of 10 – a sprinkling of businessmen, a family therapist, an ex-government administrator, university dean . . . petty diverse actually.  We gather at the home of one of our members who as a couple of huge, side by side whirlpools [rather than a large swim pool], so there’s seating for about 15.  And, we also allow our members to invite a guest to accompany them, typically a younger male friend, former business associate, or relative. Thinking back over the years, our conversations have often turned to “how things are going in the sex department” with our wives. The common refrain seems to be ‘she’s lost interest’ . . . I’m lucky if we have sex once every other month . . . etcetera.  This occasionally comes, we should add, from our club’s younger guests as well as from some of our own club members.  Thinking this might be of interest to other ST readers we thought we’d put together a sampling of some of our conversations. Dave:  I’m glad we’re doing the circle jerk today.  I haven’t had sex with my wife for longer than I care to remember.  It’s just like, over the past year or so, she’s gradually lost interest.  Funny thing is, she used to really enjoy it.  I’ve tried to talk with her about it a couple of times, but I hate to press the issue and make her feel uncomfortable about it.  Anyway, I know I can masturbate, but I don’t feel I can do it in front of her, and have her know that I play with myself!  She’ll probably tell me I shouldn’t be doing ‘that’, or that since she’s no longer into sex then I need to put it behind me too. Rich:  Sorry to hear that buddy.  But forget masturbation for a minute.  You’ve got to find a way of getting her over the hump of feeling uncomfortable about talking with you.  It doesn’t help to shove it under the rug.  And unless you know the reason or reasons, you won’t be able to help her or to show her how she can help herself.   Whatever it takes, find what you think is ‘the right’ situation and then start talking through it.  Sure, it make take supreme effort along with a good dose of understanding and perseverance, but . . .  as they say, “where there’s a will there’s a way”. Jack:  I agree with Rich.  You’ve got to find out what’s behind it.   Maybe she’s just gotten bored with doing the ‘same old thing’ the ‘same old way’, and she doesn’t want to tell you because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.  Not that this is the cause, in your case, but if it is – hey, there are quite a few things you can do.  For instance, you can ‘change up’ the routine by buying her one or another of the great vibrators on the market . . . one’s called the ‘magic wand’ but there are others too.  Does a great job of stimulating both the G-spot and the clit . .at the same time.  Many women get not just one but multiple orgasms with these things.   Believe it or not, they can do things your cock can’t do!  But don’t be jealous, man . . . it could be a great change of pace, and your wife will be eternally grateful that you introduced her to it! Grant:  Sure, my wife loves her vibrator too.  But . . . again, depending on what your wife says, maybe the approach is for you to both watch some videos, or read a book or two with some hot illustrations . . just to get some ideas on how to liven up things in the bedroom. Patrick:  As I recall, Dave, your wife just turned 62.  And she went through menopause over the last few years.  Right?  [Dave acknowledged as much].  Well, I don’t know about all women – but most women anyway experience a thinning of the vaginal wall when they get into their 50s or 60s, and things seem to basically dry up down there.  So, okay, to compensate for this it really helps to keep things well lubricated.  There are some great lubes on the market [a couple of guys quickly chimed in with the name rand of their wife’s favorite lube], some of them pretty inexpensive, in fact.  There’s one that lots of people don’t know about – it’s coconut oil – the ‘solid’ version.  Available in grocery stores of course.  It’s my wife’s all-time favorite of course.  I lube both her and me up with it or, if I use the vibrator on her, I spread it over the attachment unit. Bill:  No kidding.  Never heard of using coconut oil.  It probably tastes good too, eh?  [Big smile!]  Grant:  Back to the video idea again.   You guys all take the AARP magazine, right?  Well, practically every month there’s a clever advertisement about some absolutely fantastic videos – it’s a set of 2 DVDs titled Better Sex for a Lifetime.  The videos portray 6 different couples of various ages, each in separate segments, talking about their sexual relationship, enjoying foreplay, engaging in sex in different positions, using different ways of having a relaxing, comfortable environment [candlelight, outdoors in a large bathtub overlooking the hillsides etc.]. . . all that and more.  Oh, there’s even a scene where one gal, who’s very very pregnant and [owing to her size and shape] devotes loving attention to her husband’s cock . . . .  eventually bringing him to a climax. Patrick:  Sounds like you just finished watching the video, Grant!   That sure was detailed.  [In fact, Grant confessed to watching it with his wife about a half dozen times!] Andy:  I don’t usually say much in this department but I think I should probably add something here.  As you guys all know I’ve got a pretty good-sized spare tire . . .and more!  Doesn’t matter . . .  I still love sex.  Last year my wife started giving me hints that she wasn’t so interested in sex anymore.  Well, one thing led to another and it turns out that it was my weight that was the main problem.  She just didn’t want to hurt my feelings.  So, we talked about it and figured out some ways [different positions] we could get creative – so that we could still give each other the kind of thrill we had been used to.  A side benefit is that I’ve finally – yeah, believe it or not – changed my eating habits and am starting to get my weight down.  Rich:  Hey Patrick. . . . remember why we started this Club?   Let’s do it.   I’m beyond horny!  With that – the monthly circle jerk got into high gear. That’s it for Part I.   Stay tuned for Part II.  Hear from club members about guys helping guys, and wives helping guys.

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