More fun now than at 24

It’s been 10 years with the significant other and the sex has been good, not great but good. It always felt there was a bit of passion missing - even at the start! But this I could see past, she’s an absolute knock out, easy going and I fell in love with her the moment I saw her. This was also one of the first things I told her once I plucked up the courage to say hi to her at a party. 

Fast forward ten years, two kids and three houses down the line. I find it hard to understand myself how I still have this absolute desire for this woman. Yet the only thing is, i still feel that spark just simmering below the surface and not feeling it when we have fun. Conscious of this I go ahead and buy sex toys, S&M gear and lingerie trying to see if this will add that missing spark. I talk to her about what she likes, what she wants me to do, what she wants to do to me but she doesn’t give anything away. Saying that it makes her feel slutty and makes her cringe talking about it. 

Then one evening I stumble across what I thought would be a magazine quiz (carnalcalibration.com). I filled it out then she did matching our answers of what we would be up for trying in bed (or out).

Now I should have said this from the outset, but I have always had a thing for watching women masturbate. I love everything to do with it, in every sort of fashion. I love seeing knuckles sliding underneath pants or the idea she’s so turned on there’s no time to take anything off and seeing hand drop into jeans or leggings. I love watching her writhing with toes curled squeezing her nipples. I’ve bought her really expensive vibrators just to see if she can cum harder or faster. To my surprise she completed the above form expressing a desire to watch ME masturbate and out of all the items we matched on this was the one she wanted to try first. 

The idea of this really turned me on, not just performing for her but knowing that this is what she actually wanted. Nonetheless we went straight upstairs, she wanted to stand. I lay in front of her as she watched me masturbate. I was really into it and she was too so we did it a few more times. 

Then we started to expand, we took it outside the bedroom. First she wanted to watch me wank as I drove the car, then she asked for videos of me wanking. Most recently we both managed to slip into a changing room after a trip to a sex shop (I wanted to see her use a big thick suction cup dildo) She took off all her clothes and watched me wank to the edge of cumming. She instructed me to stop immediately then we took the big dildo we had bought home and she stuck it to the shower wall. She started fucking herself doggy styled as she watched me masturbate. 

Our whole sex game has changed gear since that day, sometimes I’ll send her a video of me masturbating while I talk through all the thoughts that’s are getting me there. Sometimes when I know we have some time I’ll send her some porn gifs showing her what I want to do to her, along with a link to some porn of male masturbation as I want her to get soaking wet. 

Last time I did  this it came with  instructions, like she had to watch 4 mins of the video before she could touch herself and even then she could only explore her amazing titties without touching her nipples then after 3 mins of playing with her boobs she was had to film herself as she was finally allowed to play with her hard nipples. 

Even though I was only sat downstairs the idea of her following this and me getting the video was really hot. By the end she is instructed to wait on all fours wet for me and by this point she was so wet I had to have a taste.  

It’s all been quite invigorating and has definitely improved our imagination, sex and relationship