In Praise of Loving Wives and Partners

For 17 years, I was married to my first wife. We had two great kids and lots of fun times as a family. Sexually however, it was a disaster! We were typical Christian kids who knew nothing except the mechanics of sex and a whole load of guilt about everything else to do with sexuality.  Note please, that I blame myself as much as my wife.  It is not just a case of me considering her frigid or reluctant to experiment.  For years, I was afraid to raise anything to do with sex for fear of being labelled a pervert in our typical Baptist community.  Suffice to say that once our kids had become teenagers, and were dealing with issues with which we had struggled ourselves, things became awkward because I was determined not to let them suffer the same fate and my wife was still towing the “thou shalt not” church line on sex education.  To cut a long story short, we eventually divorced and I left the church and what I considered to be, its outdated doctrines.

Being single again coincided with the arrival of the internet and a lot more liberal attitude to sex in general.  I wasn’t interested in another relationship and while I got myself together I masturbated a lot!  I went online and found a whole variety of stuff to get me off nicely but I quickly discovered that well written erotica usually maintained my arousal a lot longer than visual porn. That was the start of a long road which eventually led me to SoloTouch many years later.

I met my second wife about six months after my divorce.  We met in an online chatroom. She was also in the middle of a divorce but for her it was from an alcoholic abuser who had mistreated her badly.  We talked online for a couple of weeks about our various issues and the bond was soon sealed as we realised we had a lot in common and the chat turned to more intimate matters. I invited her out for dinner and we met in person for the first time, both feeling immediately at ease in each other company.  We just clicked straight away and felt as if we could talk about anything and everything.  We eventually said goodnight with a kiss and the unspoken promise of more to come. Two days later we met at a hotel.  Given her previous relationship, I was concerned not to rush and let her find her comfort zone. I needn’t have worried!

Over the last 21 years we have had the most sexual fun I could possibly imagine in all shades of grey and the key to that is simply not being afraid to talk about it.  I was honest with her from the start about my first wife and our religious baggage and she told me about her abusive husband.  We both decided on a clean slate with no insecurities or jealousy.  So, that has led us to try pretty much anything we wanted to.  If we liked it, we carried on. If we didn’t, we tried something else.  My wife has now fully embraced her bisexual nature having previously been too scared to act on feelings she had since the age of 15. We have had such fun with friends in our sexlife, including threesomes, foursomes, swingers clubs and parties. We both allow each other masturbate freely whenever the mood takes us, but watching each other doing it is a personal favourite of mine.  We both really enjoy edging and have become masters of teasing each other to the brink.  Sometimes we make love, sometimes we fuck like rabbits in heat. 

Now as we are into our 60s, age and illness has slowed us down a bit but we are still loving sex and masturbation as much as we can.  We both really enjoy reading the stories on Solotouch and writing about some of our adventures over the years   So, here’s to all the sexy wives and partners out there who don’t let the sex get routine, boring or predictable and keep us guys horny!