Distractions Can be Devastating

Admittedly, since I am not a sex counselor, I do not have all the answers, so can only speak from personal experience. I don't remember any times at all in my youth and early marriage when I was not able to achieve orgasm unless Mom called or the schoolbell rang and interrupted my fun and I had to cram my erection into my jeans quickly and run, wondering if Mom or my teacher would notice the bulge! I enjoy the riddle "What is the lightest thing in the world?" Answer: a male love wand -- just a thought can raise it! After 40 years of marriage and having received many "Oh, no!" "Not now," "Down, boy!" and "Leave me alone!" answers from my wife, a simple "no" will cause an immediate limpness as quickly as a pin pricking a balloon. Actually such answers are like ax chops to my erection. How many times can a balloon be punctured, anyway? So, I've quit asking and told my wife that when she's ready for fun to let me know either verbally or by showing up in a state of undress or exotic wear. Even though she enjoys orgasms, once or twice a month is enough for her, but not nearly enough for me! Distractons can be devastating, whether it's a phone ringing, needing to use the stool, thinking about all the work to be done after sex, remembering past pressures at work, a car honking or a dog's bark, the door bell, a motorcycle or large truck gunning its way along the road, smoke filtering in from the next room at a motel, someone else's shower running. So as a partial answer, Happy, distractions can cause me to go limp in short order. It's been said that our brain is our biggest sex organ. I'm not sure I believe that, but know thoughts are quick to raise my love wand or can cause it to go limp quickly. There have been times in the past several years, that when my wife has tired pumping me, she simply says "Take over." and I do. Sometimes, especially when she has not participated in having any fun herself and expects me to "just do it and get it over" that there has been nothing to excite me and find it hard to even get it up. Those times I may give up several times, but wanting an orgasm and making up my mind to do so, start pumping again. Maybe the third time I am successful in ejaculating. When I told her recently that her having fun helps excite me, I get a harsh response "Don't make ME responsible for your orgasms!!!" So I take matters into my own hands when I'm alone, read some Lily or Solo stories, and enjoy some fantastic feelings. What follows is more than you asked for, Happy, so consider the rest as a bonus. Believing that ejaculating is good for my sexual health as well as my mental health, I frequently (several times a week) put myself intentionally in position of being willing to be aroused by reading something erotic. Fiction and pornography do nothing for me because they are so impersonal and I cannot build a relationship with the fictitious characters nor nameless pictures flat on a page, especially when only part of a female's body is shown. So, I've really enjoyed lots of stories on ProAxis, SoloTouch, and now WhisperingLily! Although I've had a birthday since joining Lily (but have not updated my age on my profile page yet), about a month or two ago my hankering just wouldn't go away after an ejaculation so took time to work up another one about 2 3/4 hours later -- and yet another one about another 2 3/4 hours later. Although I had less ejaculate each time and each one was slightly more watery looking, each orgasm became more intense and sent a bigger set of thrills all the way up my body to my brain! That made 3 big O's in 5 1/2 hours! I thought, "not bad for a guy in his 60's!" My record years ago was 5 ejaculations in 25 hours, far short of some stories I've read, but satisfactory for me because each one was enjoyable! What I am enjoying more recently than a quick orgasm is to spend time building up my arousal by reading a number of stories, anywhere from half an hour to a couple of hours, fondling my pleasure pole gently with my left hand through my sweat pants to keep my erection hard and sensitive while navigating Solo and Lily stories with my right hand on the mouse. When I can no longer hold off the orgasm, I pull down my sweats, pump like everything real fast, and presto my thick, hot, white cream comes gushing out! Most recently I've been taken up by running my left thumb around my head very lightly to build up the sensations in a controlled fashion, enjoying each slow circle. When I can no longer take the tickling and have to rush to orgasm, I simply rub my entire thumb across the top of my head rapidly. Somehow the tickling gives even more sensations than pumping hard! It takes a lot of will power not to just grab my shaft and pump excitedly, but REALLY enjoy all the extra sensations before my cream comes gushing out in my excitement! This morning, my wife shut off the alarm clock and slept another hour and a half, giving me an hour and a half to enjoy my erection! Being 2 inches across and 7 inches long, I enjoyed holding my big Love Wand in my hand, squeezing it gently repeatedly for the first hour to cause some back pressure on my prostate and let it respond by keeping my Love Wand pumped up full! Being a cold winter, we are using flannel sheets and my head enjoys circling around under the covers! I place my index finger on one side and my middle finger on the other side, like holding a cigarette, and for the last half hour before my wife awakened, made complete circles slowly under the flannel sheets, sometimes going clockwise and sometimes counter-clockwise, sometimes going back and forth on the most sensitive side of my head. All the exquisite sensations are what I call giving myself LOTS of self-love! So, I've already given my pleasure pole an hour and a half of stimulation this morning and am ready to read some stories! I don't think it will take long for my volcano to erupt, especially since last Wednesday was my last eruption due to the fact that we were out of state for the holiday weekend and had no chance to work up an orgasm. Hope you enjoyed my description, HappyGirl! Happy tickling, HappyGirl and everyone else on Lily! I really enjoy this site, thanks to our webmaster!