Sexless Marriage?

[pak123]

I've been married for 12 years and sex went from frequent and satisfying to occasionally and ok. Then the menopause showed up and "boom!" it was all over in a flash. I went from a furtive, occasional masturbator to a daily stroker. My wife is aware of my hobby and is fine with it. I'm sure she'd rather I masturbate and leave her in peace! I'm sure I'm not alone here. Anyone in a similar situation?

[Bks512]

Sounds exactly like what I'm going through. My wife of 16 years is in menopause and has no desire to have sex. I end up jerking off almost daily.

[pak123]

Welcome to the club! The menopause is a sex killer. I'm a daily masturbator now and probably for the foreseeable future.

[mash2014]

From having sex like rabbits to occasional to nothing. I don't blame menopause but it said bye-bye she only wanted to have sex in missionary position, she didn't want to give or receive oral. She had a gynecological procedure and after that, she became that way. Although I've been an avid masturbator all my life, currently it's my only way to satisfy my sexual needs. I haven't gone out looking for some because she's a great woman and I don't want to betray her in any way.

[Bks512]

It's the worse. I love my wife but something's got to give. Truly miss the skin on skin contact.

[pak123]

Sometimes I wish my wife was a horrible person, she isn't, she's my best friend and ally and an amazing person. We're just not getting it on enough, or at all! It's hard, it's lonely and it's frustrating. "Misery loves company" as they say, and a quick search will lead to numerous forum dealing with this issue. Men and women, some in great relationships, some in poor ones, but all suffering from the dreaded dead bedroom scenario. Good luck fellow married masturbators. Better stock up on lube, this could be a long solo journey!

[llugguss]

No problem. That's okay for me.

[thumper]

Same story here. She never had much sex drive but it diminished over 35 years until now it's nil. Went to couples counseling where my wife said she couldn't stand to be touched. Now I have ED but it still feels good to play with myself while watching porn or reading ST. She hates it when she catches me jacking. Guess she thinks I should be like her. Wish I could afford a divorce($).

[lexington]

I often wonder what the cause is, is it really her or because I find playing with myself so exiting and exactly the way I love it.

[rathb69]

I am in a similar situation

From having sex like rabbits to occasional to nothing. I don't blame menopause but it said bye-bye she only wanted to have sex in missionary position, she didn't want to give or receive oral. She had a gynecological procedure and after that, she became that way. Although I've been an avid masturbator all my life, currently it's my only way to satisfy my sexual needs. I haven't gone out looking for some because she's a great woman and I don't want to betray her in any way.

I also have always been an avid masturbator. As frequency of sex dropped off, I embraced daily masturbation and trying new and exciting things such as masturbating outside or in Adult Book stores (and a few porn theaters). I've had a few flings with women, but it can get complicated.

I have found it far less complicated, when the urge strikes, to occasionally engage in cock play with anonymous men - just playing with/handling each others cocks and jacking off. Its still a surprise to me how much I sometimes want to touch another man's penis and how comfortable I have become letting other men watch me jack off.

[ginger58]

We all are in the same club. I just can't get her interested at all after 40 odd years

[norcalman]

I'm in the same boat. Menopause ended our having sex. I am lucky to get an occasional hand job. I've always enjoyed jerking off and now with so much porn available it's my go to routine almost daily.

[jemstone]

I am bi, married, 76, cut. I have been on ST since the 1990s and have several stories here. I am in a very good marriage, but she lost interest in sex 9 years ago and I knew at age 10 I am bi. When you are bi and choose to marry a woman, you never lose the strong desire to masturbate watching men.

Until last Sept my only touch of another cock was as a teen. But the horny got to me last September so I went to a nearby adult bookstore (abs) and played with a half dozen cocks that visit. The store ("Secrets" is part of a chain of stores here in the SF East Bay) and on subsequent visits I sucked my first cock and had my first BJ (at age 76).

Lots of middle-aged men at the abs, probably like me (married, bi, little or no married sex). I suspect that the cock play at the abs is saving many sexless marriages.

[george69]

I'm another man in a sexless marriage. The past 2 years have been completely sex free and it's been challenging. Embracing life as a masturbator has been a game changer for me. I, like most men would often stroke regularly, even when getting sex from my wife. But when sex stopped completely I took my wanking to another level and really started to enjoy it without guilt or shame. I now masturbate daily and would love to communicate with other married wankers in the same situation.