Masturbation Fantasy - Right or Wrong?

[snaredrum52]

My wife and I masturbated together at various times throughout our marriage, usually when we only had time for a "quickie". Right after she turned 60, she began to have some physical issues that prevented us from having intercourse etc. but we could still masturbate together. (that was five years ago) So from then on, our intimacy consisted strictly of masturbating together and it was wonderful, extremely erotic and very emotionally fulfilling. The closeness we felt was incredible even after 40 years of marriage.
Unfortunately, she passed away this past February at the age of 65 and I am now alone. So here is my dilemma: I recently started to have the need to masturbate again and the first few times I did it, I tried to think about doing it with other women that I know because I know I can never be with my wife again. But my mind keeps drifting back to the many times my wife and I did it together. However, at the same time I feel guilty about it. I really can't figure out why but it just happens. Has anyone else ever experienced this or something similar? Any advice? BTW I am a fit healthy 70 year old and need to masturbate fairly often from a physical standpoint.

[mash2014]

I'm a wanker since I was 12 and at 65 I still go strong. I've had some experiences that were erotic or very good and although they happened some time ago I still use them as inspiration for my wanks. Some of the people involved I haven't seen or heard of in over 40 years. My point if when you wank your wife comes to mind, enjoy it. That is what makes you feel good. Eventually, the thought of your wife will slowly drift, and it will allow you to have other fantasies. You are still mourning your wife. Give it some time.

[paddington]

It could be that while you and your wife were masturbating together, she was thinking of someone else?

It never had a negative influence on your relationship so I wouldn’t worry.

For all we know, she might be watching over you and enjoying your fantasy wank too

[fireaxe14]

I think that masturbation fantasies are very much Okay, either by yourself or with a masturbation partner!
It’s great to talk about your masturbation fantasies with either your partner or with someone in a chat room!
It’s great hearing about others stroking fantasies!
Paul

[canthelpmyself]

I think every relationship will be different, so even though you fantasize about masturbating with another woman it will never be the same as it was with your wife. If you find another lover, you will discover new ways to excite one another.

[wanklover]

This is similar but not the same as your predicament. My wife hasn't been able to have any sex for the last 20 years so my only release is from Masturbation. Yes I do think about my wife when masturbating but also I often think of other women that I have met in my life that I fancied but never had a relationship with. Do I feel guilty about this ? No I don't, it gives me a lot of pleasure to let my imagination run riot. It's all in the mind. I don't think you should feel guilty about thinking of your wife, after all they are happy memories but equally I don't think it's wrong to think about other women either. Hope you come to terms with this.

[bimarried]

...my mind keeps drifting back to the many times my wife and I did it together. However, at the same time I feel guilty about it. I really can't figure out why but it just happens. Has anyone else ever experienced this or something similar? Any advice? BTW I am a fit healthy 70 year old and need to masturbate fairly often from a physical standpoint.

Enjoy those memories! My wife of 47 years died two years ago when I was 75. I masturbated a lot in the early months after her death using porn, writing and reading erotica, and looking at 30+ nude photos I had of her over the years. Often I would write naughty letters to her or stories about our sex. That writing and her nude pictures usually created my best solo sessions.

Be happy that her memories turn you on.

[iamnaked]

The past is the past. Your former wife lives on in your memories.
You honor her by remembering her.

The past is the past. No guilt never.
You wouldn’t believe half the stuff I’ve done in my past. I have no guilt,
No bullshit to carry.
Life is way too short for that.
I’ll feel very fortunate to live another twenty years and I figure less than fifteen will have sexual fun in it.
I just locked myself out of my car yesterday naked at a busy river park.
Several people were trying to figure out how to get it open when a lady found my keys up on the roof rack.
I acted totally embarrassed. About ten people got a good look at my half hard on. Every one was smiling.
Funny part was not a soul offered me a towel or anything to cover up with.

[mash2014]

What I like about fantasies is that I can do it thinking of any person, male, female, young or old, skinny or fat. Some fantasies I will run in my head a couple of times and move to other themes. Unlike fantasies, real life has many barriers or impediments that will never materialize into an experience.

[spunkluvr]

What I like about fantasies is that I can do it thinking of any person, male, female, young or old, skinny or fat.

Exactly. In fantasy you can do whatever you want, and with whoever you like and no-one gets hurt.