Masturbation vs Penetration

[dlihret]

This is probably a strange question, since for most males, their dominant sexual objective is to get their penis in a vagina.
For the past few years my sex life has been limited to solitary masturbation. This is due to age (ED) and some health issues. On a rare occasion I could talk my wife into mutual masturbation. Recently I decided to push the envelope. I got out of the shower and had a “semi” and my wife noticed. She asked me if I would like to finish. She hadn’t made the bed and said I was welcome to use it. I said,”how about we wait until later and we can both participate.” She agreed.
The next morning I took one of my “happy pills” and a couple hours later suggested we get in bed. Because of the ED, I hadn’t actually been inside her for a couple years. As I get harder, I suggested giving it a try. She was game and we succeeded in connecting for a minute or two. I pulled out and told her I wasn’t sure I could finish inside her. I also wanted to make sure she had an orgasm as well.
She took one of her vibrators and placed on her clit while I stroked my cock. After four or five minutes she was moaning and I knew she had cum. It was now my turn to finish. I played with one of her nipples with one hand while stroking with the other. A couple minutes later I had a great cum. We cleaned up, rested for a bit and went about our day.
This was a great experience, but I found that the self stimulation was almost better than the penetration. Has anyone else had this experience, or am I just so focused on masturbation over the past few years that penetration isn’t what it used to be.
I would be interested in hearing what others have experienced in this regard.

[valethyl3]

It's all good as they say.It's my brain that makes me cum.With my cock in her pussy or sometimes out I need a verbal or a sexy idea to set me off

[maturebator]

For us - a happily married couple who have been masturbating (solo and shared) for over 50 years - it was never a question of one form of sexual pleasure being "better" than another, but then, that's an individual's choice. For us, each form of pleasure had it's own place "on the shelf," and we pretty much wanted it all. We wanted the whole buffet. Well, except for anal. That was never a big thing for us.

But I think that our very first conversations about masturbation - including "coming-out" to one another that we both enjoyed it and intended to keep on enjoying it - THAT was instrumental in establishing masturbation in the relationship. Masturbation never took a back seat to intercourse and neither was it a "substitute" for intercourse.

Not long ago, my wife confessed that her vaginal tissues just couldn't take the kind of pounding that she enjoyed with me. They just became too sensitive and hormone creams didn't help. So....because we both embraced masturbation, we just increased that activity and it wasn't like either of us felt a terrible loss. All the fucking we had was marvelous. But now she had to make some changes. And so, oral and masturbation are our primary sexual activities.

And life is good.

[lexington]

Sex will always be my first choice. But just sometimes I need to have a quick one, or very long masturbation session.

[mash2014]

I masturbate even we have had penetration. However, I also have and some ED issues and many times it's difficult to maintain an erection and finish. I've noticed masturbation solves the problems of finishing and when I masturbate I have less pressure of maintaining an erection.

[lexington]

Very true!

[eatmycum]

for me, I could care less about penetrating a vagina. I want and need to penetrate a mouth. I love oral, both giving and receiving. Most of my orgasms are thanks to masturbation and when I do cum masturbating, it is while I am thinking about oral - sucking a cock or pussy OR getting a BJ. So it's safe to say - oral dominates my sex life.

[blackboxer500]

My wife and I are 62 and a typical session involves fucking for a while and then us both masturbating together. It can also involve cunnilingus and fellatio, and although she came cum that way I usually need too much pressure and stimulation to cum — though one workaround is for me to masturbate to the verge of orgasm and then she takes command with her mouth and hands, which works quite well. And she loves to swallow every drop!

For both of us our most intense orgasms involve vibrators. Her fave is the ridiculously named Womanizer, which has the new technology that stimulates the clit with sound waves. Lelo makes a version of that, too. She likes the one that both goes in the vagina and stimulates the clit. She can’t orgasm through vaginal stim alone but really really likes to be filled as her clit is stimulated.

As for me, I love my Doxy vibrator with the Lovehoney Hummer deluxe attachment. Just wow! We have a bunch of other toys that one day I will write about for a forum post. The Doxy is like a Hitachi wand but much more powerful motor. I got that back when I was on a medication with a side effect that suppressed the sexual response, so the Hitachi wasn’t enough. Now that I’ve changed meds the Hitachi probably would be enough because usually the lowest setting on the Doxy is enough.

So in our case penetration and masturbation are not at odds with one another but are very complementary.

[trouble55]

Oral for me is king.....it hits all my senses that just fucking doesn't .... Don't get me wrong I love to be in her but nothing beats the smells touch taste feel sight of eating pussy !! When I get carried away I'll rim her too and if really really horny sometimes think about sucking cock !!! So I guess my all time dream would be MMF

[semicircum]

As a Compulsive Addicted Masturbator l haven't been inside Cunt for 27yrs. Hand Wins every time.

[mountain]

I believe masturbation is a part of a sex game, each one has different pleasures. Masturbation could be subsidized penetration. I enjoy both sexes with my wife as well as masturbation solely. Now, I do more masturbating than sex, because my wife is not interested any more having sex, so I wank off 1 or 2 times a week, also If I am alone I do it once or twice a day.

[bk60]

When i was younger i thought that masturbation was a way for me to prepare to be a better lover and i think it worked as i could really fuck for hours. So penetration was always the goal. Now that my wife doesn’t care about sex, my health and well being is the goal of masturbation. But if i had the choice, I would prefer actual penetration with a woman.

[jacker1950]

That is the question is it not? When I was younger, of course it was penetration, no doubt. As we grew older and my wife decided that she had reached her "limit" and no longer desired to have sex or even discuss options, I took control of my sex life and have been a happy, faithful masturbator ever since - not that I wasn't before! So yes, I would rather masturbate on my terms, whenever, wherever I want to, than have sex once every month, if that.

[matureplayer]

My preference is to get as much sex as I can, and both intercourse and masturbation count. I love giving orgasms in any way, and I love getting off in any way. Orgasms are the most pleasurable thing in life!

Given open choice I would probably take intercourse most of the time. So why is that? First, the foreplay is a big turn on. Kissing, playing with nipples and genitals with my fingers and naked skin on skin are exciting, I get hard just thinking about it. Then sucking nipples, and the feeling of a very wet pussy ready for my hard cock make me drip precum in anticipation. The feeling of penetration is amazing, hot, wet, tight engulfing my cock is exquisite. After enjoying the first penetration, starting the in/out thrusting; varying speed and depth. There is something extra in the act of thrusting my hips, pushing in and out. At some point hearing her moans and feeling her cum, her cunt tightening, grasping as she orgasms. I love making her cum! Sometimes then, sometimes on her second or third orgasm I feel my cock grow even harder and my balls tighten. Soon I cannot hold back and my cock throbs, releasing spurt after spurt of semen deep inside, such a deeply satisfying release. She might cum again too making it even better. Then lying together, still buried deep inside, breath slowing and gradually softening.

If intercourse is so good why masturbate at all? Well, as for many here, I want more sex than she does, masturbating keeps me happy and not too horny. Masturbation is easy, I can do it almost anywhere that is a bit private (or even if not!). I have full control, can make it last long or be a quickie, can watch porn or read erotica, can let my fantasies play out and ‘do’ things I am unlikely unlikely to in real life. I have even more control over how and when I cum, and what the stimulation is leading up to a wonderful ejaculation. Even back when my wife wanted sex more often these things led me to masturbate quite often, no reason not to do it too - doesn’t take away from real sex, can add to it. Have never understood why masturbation is taboo for so many, even though almost everybody does it.

[littledk]

I have been a chronic masturbator ever since I had my first dry orgasm years before I had reached puberty. Even when my wife and I were still having regular sex I still masturbated at every opportunity. As I grew older I began to realize that I actually got more pleasure from masturbation than from penetrative sex with my wife. So I was actually relieved when she gave up sex completely and I no longer had to try to "perform" for her and could just relax and enjoy masturbating.

[mash2014]

Ever since the age of 12 when I masturbated the first I haven't stopped.
Having said that, on many occasions, after having sex with my wife I'd go to the other room and masturbate. Many times I preferred to masturbate than to have sex. I've had some of my best orgasms by masturbation. I've had excellent orgasms through sex but masturbation has been my way to find that pleasure.