Sexless marraige

[james62]

So just admit it...How many of you are in a sexless marriage? I am and I make the best of it by exploring sites like this. So really for me it's less about "making Love" and more about getting off sexually. I enjoy looking at women while I'm masturbating and I find no guilt about it even though I don't share it with my wife. I have a strong sex drive even at my age so why not let myself be sexual even though my wife has nothing to do with it. In face, she doesn't even know I'm here.

[wanklover]

My wife has health issues and as a result hasn't had sex with me for a very long time. So masturbating is the only sexual pleasure that I get. She know's that I masturbate and is quite happy about it but doesn't know that I visit ST !! I just love the sexual pleasure that I get from masturbating, always have since I was 13 !!

[wheelboy2]

So just admit it...How many of you are in a sexless marriage? I am and I make the best of it by exploring sites like this. So really for me it's less about "making Love" and more about getting off sexually. I enjoy looking at women while I'm masturbating and I find no guilt about it even though I don't share it with my wife. I have a strong sex drive even at my age so why not let myself be sexual even though my wife has nothing to do with it. In face, she doesn't even know I'm here.

Did you write this or did I? We're both in the same boat exactly. Not one word about sex ever leaves my wife's lips. If I get her to masturbate me she does it in complete silence and leaves the room immediately after I come. What a way to live but at our ages it's too late to do anything about it.
If she knew I was here she wouldn't say a word but she would think I'm a pervert. Sad isn't it?

[mash2014]

I join the club. Sex disappeared long ago. Not a word so I masturbate. She sometimes walks naked around the house but there is no sexual innuendo. She evades sex talk. So I masturbate.

[russ195]

About the same, we have sex about once every other month or less. She does give me handjobs though and we still snuggle, kiss etc.

I read once that males masturbate a lot when they are young, get some sex later and probably still masturbate a bit and later in life, is back to your younger days of masturbating a lot and no sex. After manopause, probably 75% of women lose their desire and some even see sex as dirty.

[britboy]

My wife has serious health issues and is in constant pain. Not surprisingly, sex isn't high on her list of priorities. We are intimate and she gets upset that we do not have the sex life that we used to enjoy. We masturbate together if her health allows, but penitrativ sex is difficult. I masturbate two or three times a week.

I enjoy wanking with others and use a website to meet wank buddies. There are a lot of men in similar circumstances it seems. The thrill of stripping off and being naked with others then masturbating ourselves and each other doesn't replace sex with my wife but I enjoy it and it reminds me of teenage fun many years ago.

[wanklover]

My wife has serious health issues and is in constant pain. Not surprisingly, sex isn't high on her list of priorities. We are intimate and she gets upset that we do not have the sex life that we used to enjoy. We masturbate together if her health allows, but penitrativ sex is difficult. I masturbate two or three times a week.

I enjoy wanking with others and use a website to meet wank buddies. There are a lot of men in similar circumstances it seems. The thrill of stripping off and being naked with others then masturbating ourselves and each other doesn't replace sex with my wife but I enjoy it and it reminds me of teenage fun many years ago.

Hi, good to see another Brit on ST. As you may have seen above my wife hasn't had any sexual pleasure for a very long time due to health issues. It's such a shame as we had a good sex life that she really enjoyed. So I am sorry to hear that your wife has problems too. I'm not gay nor even bi but I have found masturbating with other members of ST to be therapeutically stimulating and I enjoy the companionship. Some members masturbate together on cam using a site called 'Whereby'. You can log into their accounts even if you don't have one yourself.

[lonefalcon]

I see that I'm in good company here. I'm 64, my wife 67, but she hasn't been keen on sex for many years. Masturbation is my release, but I have to be sneaky about it. My wife would never admit to masturbating herself, so would be critical of me. I enjoy finding sites like this where people in the real world can chat and discuss real world issues. I too live in the UK so the weather just adds to the gloom. I miss the intimacy, the joy of seeing each other naked, and having sex. I need to masturbate but I'm frustrated that I can't discuss it as the everyday thing that it is with anyone because few of us admit we do it.

[wanklover]

I see that I'm in good company here. I'm 64, my wife 67, but she hasn't been keen on sex for many years. Masturbation is my release, but I have to be sneaky about it. My wife would never admit to masturbating herself, so would be critical of me. I enjoy finding sites like this where people in the real world can chat and discuss real world issues. I too live in the UK so the weather just adds to the gloom. I miss the intimacy, the joy of seeing each other naked, and having sex. I need to masturbate but I'm frustrated that I can't discuss it as the everyday thing that it is with anyone because few of us admit we do it.

Hi from another Brit. My wife knows full well that I masturbate and has no problem with it at all. I have always masturbated with her up until health problems put an end to her having sex. What she doesn't know is that I visit this site !!

[norcalman]

Due to age and health problems my wife is no longer interested in having sex. As a result, I jerk off ... a lot. Sex with her was never that great anyway as she is very conservative and would never be interested in anything but vanilla sex.

[wanklover]

Due to age and health problems my wife is no longer interested in having sex. As a result, I jerk off ... a lot. Sex with her was never that great anyway as she is very conservative and would never be interested in anything but vanilla sex.

That's a shame. When my wife was sexually active we enjoyed fucking, oral, masturbating each other and masturbating ourselves in front of each other so she was fairly open minded. Neither of us fancied anal at all so never did that.

[lincolnimp]

Great to see other men from the UK and in the same boat as me, my wife and I used to have great sex but as our ages have got on and she is a lot of pain now we haven't had sex for over 20 years and i just masturbate on my own as I know she will disapprove.

[oldfan]

In the same boat here, though have only been sexless for maybe 7 years or so.

[iamnaked]

Sexless marriage for a very long time as my wife is disabled. She gave me a long leash. I can play as long as I don’t get into a love affair. I have a few very senior ladies that like to have me over. I’m ok.

[mash2014]

Due to age and health problems my wife is no longer interested in having sex. As a result, I jerk off ... a lot. Sex with her was never that great anyway as she is very conservative and would never be interested in anything but vanilla sex.

The wife is no longer interested in sex and as you said it she's very conservative I can't even run my hands over her tits and touching her pussy is out of the question. I do masturbate a lot and I fantasize about watching her get fucked by another man and her swallowing his cum.

[wisher]

Great to see other men from the UK and in the same boat as me, my wife and I used to have great sex but as our ages have got on and she is a lot of pain now we haven't had sex for over 20 years and i just masturbate on my own as I know she will disapprove.

I don't know if it's that some spouses don't realise how important sexual release is to their partner, but I find it sad that people have to hide the totally innocent non-threatening pastime of wanking because their wife/husband wouldn't approve. It's a compromise too far to expect them to do without because you can't or won't provide it (in my view). I'm trying to think of an analogy; like I expect you to stop meeting your mates at the pub because I've become tee total.

I'm fairly sure it's a generational thing and that attitude is dying out, the younger generation have far more healthy, pragmatic approaches to sex. Thank God.

[ozjohn]

Age 85, still ver interested in all things sexual, not fucked for over 30 years after wife's menopause.

Knew it was coming at my age 54 and hers about 52. The sex was very plain vanilla and like fucking a blow up doll I always thought of it. Asked that I desist, and I agreed so long as I could attend to my own sexual needs as required.

She agreed and I have been watching porn and pulling myself off ever since. She catches me every so often but never complains.

I am content, it keeps me sane.

[blackboxer500]

In case this helps anyone, my wife is a retired urologic nurse practitioner, and by default many sex related medical problems end up in a urology office. Regardless of gender I encourage those who have diminished sexual response, drive, performance, etc., — or who have partners with problems — to seek medical help.

A common complaint she heard from women was that intercourse had become painful. Each case must be evaluated on the particular facts, of course, but very often the issue was simple lack of sufficient natural lubrication. It seems obvious to a lot of us that the solution might be as simple as using a personal lubricant, but her patients with that problem often believed that lack of naturally getting wet meant that sex was over. Sometimes she would hear a reply such as “I thought that stuff was for the guys” or they thought it was unnatural or whatever. (Btw, this problem is not confined to older women. My wife, for example, has always had low volume lubrication, but a water based lube makes it a non factor).

The point is that many are successfully treated with a simple nudge and a little education of what products to try. Other women needed more than a lube and many were helped with safe vaginal suppositories (inserted once a week, typically) that kept the vagina supple. Some women needed help with returning an underused vagina to capacity to receive a penis, and a dildo or (more likely) a vibrator — well lubed, of course — would be discussed. Many women retained the impression that sex aids could only be acquired in seedy sex shops, and didn’t know that Amazon and other online merchants could deliver with ease — and more importantly that using them is completely normal.

For me, the gender of the health provider isn’t important, but to some people it is. In offices where there isn’t a female physician there very often is a female nurse practitioner or physician’s assistant who can be consulted. These offices are accustomed to patients saying things like “It’s a personal problem that I would be more comfortable speaking to another woman about.” If they can accommodate you,they will.

For males, the common treatments are better known, but if libido or erections are diminished, please seek medical help.

Of course many health problems aren’t so simple to fix, but unless the person seeks medical guidance, they probably are suffering for no reason other than failure to seek help. Sexual health is not only about sex, it’s also about health.

[wheelboy2]

Great to see other men from the UK and in the same boat as me, my wife and I used to have great sex but as our ages have got on and she is a lot of pain now we haven't had sex for over 20 years and i just masturbate on my own as I know she will disapprove.

I don't know if it's that some spouses don't realise how important sexual release is to their partner, but I find it sad that people have to hide the totally innocent non-threatening pastime of wanking because their wife/husband wouldn't approve. It's a compromise too far to expect them to do without because you can't or won't provide it (in my view). I'm trying to think of an analogy; like I expect you to stop meeting your mates at the pub because I've become tee total.

I'm fairly sure it's a generational thing and that attitude is dying out, the younger generation have far more healthy, pragmatic approaches to sex. Thank God.

I've explained a few times to my wife that sexual release is like tending to any other bodily need or function - like hunger with food. When we're hungry we eat. When we're horny we wank. I can't be expected to be unsexual just because she is. My wife doesn't drink alcohol but it's ok for me to do it. I've told her that I masturbate when needed - just like eating or drinking. She begrudgingly understands.
Just yesterday I though fuck it and I laid on the bed semi naked; wanking. I left the door open on purpose as I just didn't care if she "caught me". She saw me and said "Do you need help with that?" My response was "Always". She masturbated me while I got her tits out to look at them and feel them. She made me come and then just walked out of the room.

[iamnaked]

My disabled wife, I love her so. She allows me to live nude and knows all about my shenanigans.