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I caught my husband watching girl on girl porn and jacking off while wearing my panties. He was embarrassed, but he shouldnt have been, i would have indulged his fantasy. What are your fantasies and do you tell your wife or gf about them?
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my wife knows about all of my fantasies expect the bi side of me. i have messed around with guys in the past and would do it again. she tells me she would not be upset and i know it would turn her on, not sure why i dont just come out and say it! lol anyway if you want to talk more let me know.
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I don't share my fantasies with my wife because I DO feel judged, and it doesn't feel very good. In our early marriage, during an intimate moment, I told her about having a sexual experience with another guy as a teenager. For years since then, I have heard her tell the story of how she did not know there was such a thing as homosexuality until after she was married. I assume she is referring to my telling her, but I am reluctant to ask because she has a way of making me feel judged. I WANTED to tell her, to be known and accepted for who I am, but I learned that I am not comfortable doing so. That is why she is not and cannot be my "soulmate." It is why my separate masturbation life, where I can explore my fantasies and ALL of my sexuality, is important to me. And it is why I seek connection with others her on SoloTouch.
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I have always told my girlfriends of the past about my fantasies. Maybe that is why I never ended up getting married. :lol: I seriously think I may have scared a couple of them off, BUT, in one case, I am so glad I told her. She was bisexual. The first time I had sex with her was maybe a month after we had met. Afterwards, we were talking, and I dont remember how the topic arose, but I told her my biggest fantasy was to be fucked in the ass by a woman with a strapon. She started laughing, and I remember being very embarrased. I remember thinking to myself, Damn, I should have never told her that. She got up, went to her dresser, opened a drawer, and pulled out a strapon. She says tonight is your lucky night. Needless to say, I was then very glad I told her. I didnt tell her until a few days later that that was only half of my fantasy and that the other half was that she do it to me under a waterfall. She then said, well, at least you got half of it, but that other half wont ever happen.
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My wife saw me stroke and suck a dick before we were married and many times after. She loved watching guys shoot their loads(In porn and my jo buds). We often masturbated with each other throughout our marriage.
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I do share my fantasies with my wife, as we're reasonably open about these sorts of things. And it's led to some pretty intense and fun sessions.

We are always up to try anything twice (just in case you get it wrong the first time) and there are some things that we haven't made reality just because one or other of us weren't up for the idea.

I would always suggest you share your fantasies because, even if you don't get to act them out exactly, your partner knows which buttons to press (literally or metaphorically) to make your sexual experience that bit more fun. And, by sharing your fantasies, you may encourage your partner to share theirs. I have found out a few things that my my wife enjoys that I may never have found out if we didn't share our deeper desires, and I certainly indulge her when she wants.
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I tried to share my masturbatory fantasies with my wife and it was a bad experience. She had talked me into showing her what I did when I was masturbating. I showed her some of the vid categories I like to look at, mostly women masturbating. But as I told her what I liked about the vid and what turned me on, she began to get irritated. "My pussy doesn't look anything like hers", "I thought you didn't like big boobs" "Why does that turn you on" etc...I felt like a creepy perv when we were done. We have a wonderful sex life, but fantasies are best kept as fantasies, and not shared.
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I've shared several of my fantasies with my wife. A few she enjoys now and we share. But, her experiences are pretty vanilla and some things that get me off turns her off, and if she isn't involved, she is against it. There have been a couple fantasies that she absolutely judged me for and made for a very tense time in our relationship
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I almost always share their fantasies with her husband. Since in most cases it helps me make them come true. I see and I know that he likes them. And he gets them a lot of fun. And it means that I doubly rewarded. Also, he sometimes fantasizes. Then of course, I think long and weigh all the pros and cons before making his fantasies. If I it is possible, sometimes I do not mind their implementation.
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I've shared many of my fantasies with my wife. Some she judged me for, harshly. So my more taboo fantasies stay locked up in my mind, or shared with like minded pervs online.
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I've been sharing my fantasies with my girlfriend but not all at once, but gradually over a long time period. For example, I always had the fantasy to do mutual masturbation and also to watch my GF do herself with a toy, and now I get to experience that! She doesn't know everything (for example that I'll jack off to shemale cumshot compilations on porn sites), nor do I know all her fantasies but slowly revealing them when the time is right is what makes it fun.
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I share my fantasies with my wife and she is pretty receptive.
My biggest drive is exhibitionism with a CFNM (Clothed Female Naked Male) bent. I don't want to shock or scare anyone and I don't want to be arrested.
She has had me get naked and jack off for her on our deck. We have discussed many possibilities.
I have asked her to invite a couple of her friends to watch me jack off or to watch her give me one of her wonderful hand jobs.
She acts like she might do some of this at times and then she says she doesn't think she could go through with it.
One can only hope. At least she doesn't judge me or look down on me.
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I am an open book with my current long time gf. Same with my last wife. I have jacked off for both of them numerous times. They have both seen me suck another guy's cock. And both got off on it. I will say that neither of them have been as open to me as I have been to them. My last wife had a thing for really big cocks but would never admit it to me. Probably figured my feelings would be hurt because my cock is maybe a bit above average at 6.5" but we were in a threesome with a guy with a 9" prick and I could tell she really got off on it although she wouldn't admit it. At one point she did admit that her previous bf before we met had a big cock. My current gf is bi but will never discuss anything related to sex with another woman.
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I have shared one (of many) fantasies with my wife that I want to see her give a handjob to another guy with a real big dick. Well, actually any sized dick but I just want to see her make another man cum by hand. She pondered, and said "hmmmm, that could be interesting" but that's as far as it went.
I ran a test ad on Craigslist looking for someone to participate, I had to kill the ad in an hour, I was flooded with willing participants! I told her that, and she thought it was weird.
Too bad.
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All the time. Especially when fingering each other. Whispering to her gets us both hot.

My favorite fantasy, if you could call it that, is just imagining all the other couples in the world fucking and fingering and cumming all the time. 100 million or more times a day. The never ending orgy. All the guys spurting rivers of cum, all the women contracting over and over again, after being stimulated beyond all endurance.
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My girlfriend/soon wife knows everything that I've done and what I fantasize about or want to do. She sometimes even encourages it. It was her idea that I admit my feelings to my mom; telling her of my desire for her and that I've been wanting to have sex with her since I was in high school. Even though my mother did not reciprocate my desires, my girlfriend still sometimes teases me about it while we have sex; calling me "mommy's little boy", goading me with phrases like "show me what you want to show your mommy." as we strip and "If only your mother could see us now!" as we fuck and saying how much my mother was missing out while playing with my dick (God only knows what she would be like if my mother had said yes to sex. I guess she has a mother/son fetish).

In some cases, like with some of my other fetishes, she sometimes asks questions about what the fantasies actually do for me and/or why I have them and we have intellectual conversations about sex and sexual subjects. Its actually quite nice.

In response to my stories about what I did as a kid she loves to hear me talk about the older guy sucking me off and eventually gave me a load of pictures of herself from the same time frames of my antics and told me to "enjoy them". And then she proceeded to fill my head with stories of how much we'd play with each other and fuck if we had met each other during school.

I think I've met my spiritual twin.
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My fiance and I share all of our fantasies and encourage each other to fulfill them.
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softerside wrote: Mon Sep 21, 2015 12:35 am I don't share my fantasies with my wife because I DO feel judged, and it doesn't feel very good. In our early marriage, during an intimate moment, I told her about having a sexual experience with another guy as a teenager. For years since then, I have heard her tell the story of how she did not know there was such a thing as homosexuality until after she was married. I assume she is referring to my telling her, but I am reluctant to ask because she has a way of making me feel judged. I WANTED to tell her, to be known and accepted for who I am, but I learned that I am not comfortable doing so. That is why she is not and cannot be my "soulmate." It is why my separate masturbation life, where I can explore my fantasies and ALL of my sexuality, is important to me. And it is why I seek connection with others her on SoloTouch.
I don't share with my wife either she believes that if I ask her to shove a finger up my ass it's because I am gay. I know this because we were watching a porn movie, early in our marriage, and the man asks the woman to stick her finger up his ass. My wife kept saying the guy was gay and she also calls bisexuality an indecisive style. It's straight or gay, no in-between.
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Though I was reluctant to do so I shared my hidden fantasies with my wife about 6 months before we got married. I was hesitant because they mostly involved my best friend's mom and I knew this was someone who we would be seeing on occasion. The fantasies are varied and don't want to bore everyone with the details. To my relief my wife was fine with it and will, on occasion, indulge me in it.
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