Bisexuality

[rathb69]

I don't think labels are useful, but as I have gotten older I have definitely become more bi-curious.

Before I knew much about sex (very little), my first experiences were with other guys. I had a same age friend who was curious like me. Sometimes after sleepovers, in the morning we got in the shower stall together and touched the heads of our penises together (only the heads of our dicks touched, we didn't have erections and didn't handle each others dicks, although we were obviously totally naked. We did this a couple of times.

When we were a few years older and were becoming interested in girls, we talked a lot about what we would do with certain girls. I suggested that we practice. I would lay on top of him and we would say the girls name and act like we were going to kiss (never did). The first time we did it, I got the urge to reach down and grab and rub his dick through his clothes. The few times we did it, right about the time I would feel him starting to get hard, he would push me off. We usually did this in his basement, so whenever we went down there it triggered the urge to play this "practice" game so I could feel him up.

Sometimes I dispensed with the "practice" ruse and just reached out and grabbed/rubbed his penis through his clothes. These explorations never lasted very long and we never did anything more than this. When we started going out with girls, these activities stopped.

Although I might have had many opportunities for bare dick play with my friend above, it first happened when I briefly played with one (slightly older) friend's bare erect penis in his basement when he pulled it out in view of two other friends. In the moment I was really curious and liked it, but it only happened once (and I felt guilty about it for a long time).

So my first experiences were with other boys, but I then moved on the girls/women ...

It was not until middle age that I began to feel comfortable about wanting to explore/indulge in playing with men. I had a close female friend and we shared our same sex experiences (few) and fantasies (many). I shared with her my urge to have an encounter with a man. She encouraged me and purchased a few all-male videos for me to stoke the flames. I progressed to playing with men's cocks a few times including mutual stroking and jacking off (which I eagerly told my female friend.) She told me we had to have a pact that I tell her about any encounters I had with men as soon as possible. It was a rush telling her and she often masturbated after hearing about my exploits.

I continue to fantasize about giving handjobs to men, sucking cock, and submitting to feeling a man's cock in my ass. So far, the sucking and submitting has remained a fantasy, but I love jacking off while watching men do all these things to each other in videos.

[trunudist68]

I am not romantically attracted to men. I could never kiss one or cuddle, hold hands or anything like that. However, I have sucked a dick before.

I was with a buddy, we were in our 30's at his house in his pool in the backyard. We were both nude because we are both nudists. My GF and his wife were out for the afternoon shopping. A few beers in, we started talking about sex and stuff. We had watched our ladies have sex in front of us and masturbated while they did it.

It was about the eighth beer that I said, WTF. I swam over to him, he was on the edge of the pool. I put his dick in my mouth and started sucking. I must have been good because he came in about 2 minutes. Yes, I swallowed. It tasted different than mine (I eat my own a lot). I was rock hard so he said it was my turn.

I sat on the edge of the pool and he started sucking me. I went soft. Looking down and seeing a guy sucking my dick just did not do it for me. He tried for several minutes and then gave up. I just was not into a guy sucking my dick even though I had just sucked off the same guy and swallowed.

He was Ok. He completely understood. He was also Ok with himself having no problem with me blowing him. I jacked off and came in his hand so he could taste my cum. He liked my cum more than his own so I was right to say that mine tasted better.

When our girls came home, we told them everything. Nudists have very few secrets. They were upset they missed it and wanted me to do it again. Later that night, I did it again. Again I swallowed. He tried one more time to suck me off but again, I went limp. My GF sucked me dry.

We have been together many times since, but I have not sucked his dick again. It remains the only time I sucked a dick. I would probably try it again though.

[mash2014]

The sexuality spectrum is where at one end we have absolute heterosexuality, and at the opposing end, we have absolute homosexuality. We know that absolutes don’t exist so that puts us all, men and women somewhere in that spectrum. Some tend to be more close to the heterosexual end while others will identify with the other end. Women admire other women's bodies. By the same token, men admire other male bodies. Sometimes we will jump from one end to the other, by curiosity or because of sentimental feelings towards a special person.
There is nothing wrong with a man desiring another man or women desire other women.

Speaking as a man, personally consider myself more attracted to women but not only in my youth but also in my adulthood I have wished and felt sexually aroused by another man. Some I have exploited others I have let go by. Admittedly, it took time to accept that same-sex attraction isn't forbidden or taboo. It is perfectly normal.

[blackboxer500]

My wife helped my understand that I am bisexual and heteroamous. This means I like sex with men and women but can only fall in love with women.

I’d never have thought to separate the sex and emotions like that, but this made my self understanding fall into place very neatly. Previously I befuddled myself by liking hard, ejaculating cocks, and wanting to suck and be fucked by them, but not wanting to kiss, cuddle, or be in love with a guy. Now i understand that it all makes sense.

[solobiguy]

I’m definitely bi and just love stroking with another man and love sucking a cock and love pussy but I’m not interested in kissing or making out with another man. But something about another cock turns me on

[serena]

I have known that I am bisexual ever since at least my early teens. In fact, most of my early sexual experiences were with other girls, probably because I was at an all-girls boarding school which made it difficult for me to meet boys. I experimented with my older sister and had a particularly intense relationship with my roommate at school. I still consider myself bisexual and bi-amorous, meaning that I am both sexually and romantically attracted to men and women. My husband considers himself bisexual but hetero-amorous, meaning that he is sexually attracted to both sexes but only romantically attracted to women.

[stroke2]

Yes I can so relate to you snd your husband. I am Bi curious and I suspect my wife is too but doesn't really talk about it anymore sadly.
I luv the variety of sexual desire I have discovered and explored here on ST. Thanks for sharing so freely

[svengalideck]

I'll buy that

[hyena5000]

Say bi curious, say about 85% for female more then male when it comes to sex intercourse and relationship.
I have been to a nude beach where, It was only men there at the time. We be silently spread apart and would just be the awkward stare at each other rarely say anything but just hello or lovely weather and that it. I Notice as I walk naked to the water I turn around a see them popping head up checking me out some would join me at he water from a silent distance. But some reason I just found that flattering. That they enjoy checking me out and I would turn let them look. Also I admit I try to sneak around to found a little spot to hide and jerk off in the water only to have one follow me and then just decided to join in. You question there feeling by the way once I cum they pick up pace and cum after me. Seeing another man cum in the water like me was amazing. But that as fare as I would normally go. Maybe hand

[hyena5000]

saying that I have enjoy watch CFNM where the girls watch the guy jerk off and shoot his load,
Never in to the really so called photo shot 15inches cock shit, I prefer seeing normal sizes.

[svengalideck]

No young age temptation; one contact about 20ish; was too much for a first attempt and waited another 6-7 years before next. Ironically a guy working a shop counter invited me to a bar after work and I just went. I had some days off work and was just wandering aimlessly anyway.

We didnt do anything except talk, had a beer (or wine) and chatted. He was gay, I knew that, and he lived in a flatmate situation, whereas I had returned to the city and was living with my parents again.

A couple of phone calls later he invited me for dinner and I went to his place. I met his flatmate there who was a monster of a guy (like 6' something plus). He went out and we had dinner and a bottle of wine together. Really wasn't any different to being with a gal. Some time later I moved from my parents and had a flat of my own. This was pre-AIDS days btw, so apart from mutual h/j and b/j nothing else happened anyway.

Stretch several hetero relationships out and 25 years passed, so the 2000's sex scene was now firmly web based and easier to manage. I stayed strictly looking for gals, and coined a community interest with a group. We met, dined and partied, but not much sex. Oh a few mutual grope and kissy bits, rarely did one come along (and those recommended by mutual gfs) for more.

Its a balancing act between being asked to supply multiple sex partners, or being invited to them. 99% of other males were looking for a pimp to provide them access. They got the chop quickly. I had two guys bring them fem partners because they were bi and wanted to swing in 3somes. I've rated those elsewhere.

A few guys were bi and looking for j/o buddies, so also had a group discussion with them. Last was 2017 as I've outlined before. Since I'm back in the 1:1 hetero world- albeit tasting Asian fare these days and avoiding husband-hunters -things have been quiet on the bi-front.
Any questions please ask, I may be able to remember!
sv-

[spengle]

i think ive gone through phases.

i was brought up in an environment where sex and masturbation was regarded as totally normal. my parents openly had sex in front of me, my dad was known as a sex maniac to everyone he openly masturbated. he had hardcore porn mags all over the house so from a very young age i was looking at porn and getting aroused i soon worked out i was aroused looking at cocks. when i discovered masturbation at 8 i started openly masturbating i found it such a turn on being seen pleasuring myself.

i taught my best mate how to masturbate and we both couldn't get enough of it. we would find a quiet corner of the play ground and watch out for each other as we wanked ourselves off. his older sister use to baby sit for me when i was a youngster. me and her brother would masturbate in front of her trying to get her to show us her pussy she never did but she didnt seem to mind watching us both pay with ourselves.

it wasnt until i was about 15 that i started with girls prior to that me and my mate would please each other buy sucking each other off when we could but mainly wanking. i went solely with women until i was 23 but my craving for cock kept growing. then i went with my first man and the sex was everything i had fantasised about plus some. i started craving sex with men more and more.

[svengalideck]

spengle wrote:
> i think ive gone through phases.
>
> i was brought up in an environment where sex and masturbation was regarded
> as totally normal. my parents openly had sex in front of me, my dad was
> known as a sex maniac to everyone he openly masturbated. he had hardcore
> porn mags all over the house so from a very young age i was looking at porn
> and getting aroused i soon worked out i was aroused looking at cocks. when
> i discovered masturbation at 8 i started openly masturbating i found it
> such a turn on being seen pleasuring myself.
>
> i taught my best mate how to masturbate and we both couldn't get enough of
> it. we would find a quiet corner of the play ground and watch out for each
> other as we wanked ourselves off. his older sister use to baby sit for me
> when i was a youngster. me and her brother would masturbate in front of her
> trying to get her to show us her pussy she never did but she didnt seem to
> mind watching us both pay with ourselves.
>
> it wasnt until i was about 15 that i started with girls prior to that me
> and my mate would please each other buy sucking each other off when we
> could but mainly wanking. i went solely with women until i was 23 but my
> craving for cock kept growing. then i went with my first man and the sex
> was everything i had fantasised about plus some. i started craving sex with
> men more and more.

nice detail... any more ...?? slurp, slurp...

[fireaxe14]

I think bi-sexual curiosity for a male or female is quite normal and natural.
Especially as we get older! And want to explore more!
Just let yourself go and explore whatever desires that turn you on!
Just set your limits on what you are willing to do!
Paul

[svengalideck]

fireaxe14 wrote:
> I think bi-sexual curiosity for a male or female is quite normal and
> natural.
> Especially as we get older! And want to explore more!
> Just let yourself go and explore whatever desires that turn you on!
> Just set your limits on what you are willing to do!
> Paul

In fact Paul it's been around for millenia, just that prohibition has increased... the last 200+ years have been the dawn of excessive intervention and controls; moving from titular leaders to church and government, where radicalism and extremism has taken root and been defined in 'legal' terms as 'harmful; therefore needing suppression...

I would offer conjecture that it is more 'normal' in the young, who idealogically are 'choosing' their future, and for us older is in our ability to absorb the information and offers available...
decL

[oldfan]

Looking back on my 70 years, I think even in my youth I had bisexual tendencies. Oh, I dreamed of girls, but also loved gazing at the other boys in the gym locker room. But I lived my life as a straight guy - married, kids, the whole bit.

But in my 30’s after moving to the San Francisco area, found myself getting more and more interested in the gay male bath house scene. If not for AIDS, I would have ventured a visit to one. Do, instead, I continued my straight life.

As I aged and sex with the wife waned, I started fantasizing more and more about M2M sex and my fantasies began to almost exclusively involve the penis: caressing, sucking, frotting, even being fucked by one. But there was no chance to experience any of it.

Finally, two years ago, I had my first ever M2M experience. We did everything except any anal. Oh, sucking Vick was so amazing! To be ably rod bring another guy to orgasmic ecstasy was the best! The memory of the fell and the sounds he made as he came in my throat continue to fuel my jack off sessions.

I loved every minute of playing with him. Although I don’t see me having an “emotional” attachment with another guy, I really do crave the physical side of M2M. So, I am certainly bisexual to the extent of living the physical attraction to other males and their penis.

Now if I could find a local friend to play with … anyone in the SF East Bay Area want to play?

[mash2014]

When I joined solotouch I was more interested in some incest and lesbian sex. With time I adventured into m2m stories. I started to realize some stories between men were more erotic and intense than regular m2f.

But something started to happen. Some memories that had been buried deep in my brain started to emerge. Among those was that at a very young age I had crushes on other kids I went to school with. Another memory that started to float out was that a man touched me when I was 13 or 14. He was a tailor and when he measured me for pants he would run his hands over my penis. I would like it. I never said anything. I knew I liked it. I would masturbate to that feeling that I enjoyed. But somehow those memories got buried so deep I couldn't remember. I believe this because back then it was frowned upon any expression of male-to-male intimacy. It took me close to 50 years to unbury them.

In my middle age, I fell head over heels for another man. I fantasized about him. That's when I discovered or realized that it was perfectly normal to have feelings toward another man, but my memories were still buried.

I'm not saying that every day something emerges from inside but some memories are starting to come out. Some have no sexual content but some do.

I've identified myself as heteroflexible. I don't know if something will take me to bisexuality or some other description. I guess I'll have to wait and see. It

[iamnaked]

Growing up discovering and playing with the body parts of both sexes I was happy.
In my teen years I learned there was a ritual of courtship to date a girl and if I was lucky get a finger wet or get my knob handled. I found it to be a lot of time and work for little return.
In my teen years it took days of sweet talking to get a girl to play.
Boys took no time at all. All we needed was a place and fifteen minutes, or less.
And it felt just as good getting and giving with a boy with no risk of pregnancy.
Then gay became a dirty word and AIDS made it too dangerous to pursue.
I stuck with women for the next thirty years.
Married a beauty and for seven years we fucked like wabbits LoL.. She was also an exhibitionist but I later learned she suffered and I mean suffered from PGAD. You can look it up. I could not fuck twice a day seven days a week and that was not even enough.
My second wife accepted my exhibitionist ways but was vanilla and we are still married. She knows all about my ways, She gave me rope and I gave her rope. Our rule was No affairs but the occasional hormone dump was ok.
Yep guys are easy and married guys needs are simple. Guys are always quick to shoot and simple to please
I have found balance.
This Is The Way.