Bisexual/heteroamorous

[blackboxer500]

I’ve been on ST since 2014, and have noticed many guys with sexual orientations that sound a lot like mine: really into women but also into cocks, especially hard ejaculating ones. This is often expressed as something similar to “I’m straight but like to watch guys jack off” — or “but want to suck cocks.”

My wife and I have really opened up our relationship, which means we talk candidly about sex. She listens to sex podcasts and reads up on sex, both as a way of titillating herself and to bring more knowledge to our relationship and bedroom. She knows of my fondness for cocks and wouldn’t mind me exploring that, which I haven’t ruled out.

It helped me a lot when she told me she thinks I’m bisexual/heteroamorous. I’d never heard of that. It means I want sex with both women and men but can only fall in love with women. Indeed, I don’t want to kiss guys and don’t really care to see their faces. Cuddling or pillow talk with a guy Is out of the question. But I love cocks and want to suck them or watch them cum. Although I’m instinctively wary of sexual labels, knowing I’m in a known category has been liberating. Now I understand myself much better.

[jimbobv6]

I've been married to my wife for 20+ years and I can't imagine being in love with a guy. However, I am - and always have been - fascinated by cocks. For me soft is far more attractive than hard and getting sexually involved with another guy would be a big step. I do enjoy watching, though!

[xyzzy77]

Sounds very much the way I feel, just figured I was hedonistic! Nope, don’t find men appealing, but a hard dick is erotic as hell!

[whispering]

Yeah, I think it's actually pretty natural for guys to be aroused by cocks. it's empathy mostly covered by inhibition, but when that falls away, it's just erotic I began masturbating with other guys a few years ago (though I did originally as a young boy) and then had the urge to give oral, which I loved. Not the least bit interested in kissing and haven't come close to falling in love, but giving head and feeling a nice big cock pumping in my mouth is awesome! You're lucky you wife has you figured out

[trunudist68]

I posted this on another thread, but it fits here as well. I love women. I am not romantically attracted to men. I could never kiss one or cuddle, hold hands or anything like that. However, I have sucked a dick before.

I was with a buddy, we were in our 30's at his house in his pool in the backyard. We were both nude because we are both nudists. My GF and his wife were out for the afternoon shopping. A few beers in, we started talking about sex and stuff. We had watched our ladies have sex in front of us and masturbated while they did it.

It was about the eighth beer that I said, WTF. I swam over to him, he was on the edge of the pool. I put his dick in my mouth and started sucking. I must have been good because he came in about 2 minutes. Yes, I swallowed. It tasted different than mine (I eat my own a lot). I was rock hard so he said it was my turn.

I sat on the edge of the pool and he started sucking me. I went soft. Looking down and seeing a guy sucking my dick just did not do it for me. He tried for several minutes and then gave up. I just was not into a guy sucking my dick even though I had just sucked off the same guy and swallowed.

He was Ok. He completely understood. He was also Ok with himself having no problem with me blowing him. I jacked off and came in his hand so he could taste my cum. He liked my cum more than his own so I was right to say that mine tasted better.

When our girls came home, we told them everything. Nudists have very few secrets. They were upset they missed it and wanted me to do it again. Later that night, I did it again. Again I swallowed. He tried one more time to suck me off but again, I went limp. My GF sucked me dry.

We have been together many times since, but I have not sucked his dick again. It remains the only time I sucked a dick. I would probably try it again though.

[serena]

My husband is also bisexual but hetero-amorous; he has (especially during his younger days) masturbated with another guy or engaged in cock-sucking, but he admits that he could never have a romantic relationship with another man. I myself, however, am both bisexual and bi-amorous because I am both sexually and emotionally attracted to women as well as men.

[oldfan]

That is the perfect description of me: bisexual/heteroamorous. I can't see me being emotionally attached to a man the way I am to a woman, but boy do I love the idea of and physically performing masturbation/sucking/frotting and maybe even anal with another guy.

[mash2014]

I joined Solo Touch many years ago. I was mostly attracted to lesbian stories and brother/sister stories. One day reading I discovered the word heteroamerous/heteroflexible and somehow I knew it described me. Memories of different situations started to surface after many years of them being buried deep in my brain. One of the buried memories was I had seen a cock ejaculating and I thought it was a beautiful thing to see, although the social norms didn't allow me to explore or open up about it. If you as a young man looked at cock you were a pervert and a degenerate.
But then the internet happened and places like ST opened my eyes again and although I don't see myself as gay or bi, I feel certain attraction to cocks, sucking it, touching it, doing things and allowing that another man can satisfy my sexuality.
I don't feel attracted to 99% of men but I have to be honest that I have felt attracted to some men, both in my early teenage years as I have in my more mature age. I discovered that I had been sexually attracted to a guy who went to school with me when we were maybe 15, but the memories had been deeply buried. Thank you, ST for allowing me to feel again something I enjoyed when I was young.
And the best if it is some men feel the same. I'm not alone anymore.

[iamnaked]

Yeah I don’t have ‘feelings’ for guys at all. But I’m still not sure this threads label fits me.
I’m all about women first and love the older women. The older the better.
As for sucking a cock I like to do that.
But !
Here is where I differ. I can’t get off when a guy sucks me at all. I can’t even stay hard looking down at a guy blowing me.
Someone try and label that !

[paddington]

I am that man! Recently I’ve became almost addicted to gay and trans porn-it’s my go-to porn.

My relationship with my wife is once a week on a good run, but it’s never been rampant sadly.

I’ve spent most of my ‘me’ time riding solo. I once showed my wife a video where there was group sex, and a guy fucking another guy. She was furious and made me turn it off. Yet she’s happy to watch lesbian porn

When I was really young I was taken advantage of by an older boy. I’ve never felt angry or abused by it. In fact, I can still feel the warmth of his penis as he pressed it between my ass cheeks. No penetration, just rubbing up and down until he ejaculated all over my ass.

As my addiction and enjoyment of gay and trans porn grew, I thought it was down to that one-off event.

But it seems it’s just me, and my heteroamorous/bisexuality.

For the record, I’d suck and I’d fuck a guy, and he could suck me too…the thought is arousing me as I type! But I couldn’t do anal…I don’t think

[wonderdick]

It helped me a lot when she told me she thinks I’m bisexual/heteroamorous. I’d never heard of that. It means I want sex with both women and men but can only fall in love with women. Indeed, I don’t want to kiss guys and don’t really care to see their faces. Cuddling or pillow talk with a guy Is out of the question. But I love cocks and want to suck them or watch them cum. Although I’m instinctively wary of sexual labels, knowing I’m in a known category has been liberating. Now I understand myself much better.

Your wife sounds pretty cool. When I was a young man exploring my identity, for a while I was obsessed with how to describe me sexuality. That term bisexual/heteroamorous might have been useful to me then. It’s a pretty good fit now, I think. My actual sex life is with my wife, but my fantasies include sex with men, primarily with giving blowjobs and receiving anal. I associate kissing with love, and that is something I only seem to feel towards women.

[rathb69]

It helped me a lot when she told me she thinks I’m bisexual/heteroamorous. I’d never heard of that. It means I want sex with both women and men but can only fall in love with women. Indeed, I don’t want to kiss guys and don’t really care to see their faces. Cuddling or pillow talk with a guy Is out of the question. But I love cocks and want to suck them or watch them cum. Although I’m instinctively wary of sexual labels, knowing I’m in a known category has been liberating. Now I understand myself much better.

Your wife sounds pretty cool. When I was a young man exploring my identity, for a while I was obsessed with how to describe me sexuality. That term bisexual/heteroamorous might have been useful to me then. It’s a pretty good fit now, I think. My actual sex life is with my wife, but my fantasies include sex with men, primarily with giving blowjobs and receiving anal. I associate kissing with love, and that is something I only seem to feel towards women.

I love my wife but don't think she would react well to any thoughts I might have about guys.

I was curious as a boy (probably 9-11) and a few times took showers with a friend after a sleepover. We checked each other out and even would touch the heads of our penises together standing face to face. I also sometimes had the urge to feel his dick through his clothes (he let me do it briefly).

When I was 12 or 13, another friend (1 year older) had discovered masturbation and wanted to show a group of us how he did it, so pulled out his dick (already hard) in his basement. I still don't know what came over me but I had a strong urge to grab his bare member and feel it even though there were two other boys there watching. I felt him up for what was probably only 30 seconds. He looked like he was really into it, but didn't cum. That was it and we never did anything else. For years after that I was into girls/women and suppressed this memory and thought I would never tell anyone (including the fact that this boy later didn't hide that he was gay.)

As a middle age man, I had relationships with two women whom I shared that I had played with a friend's dick as a teen. I told one because she shared her experiences letting a few women eat her out. With the other woman, we shared all our experiences and fantasies, which made for great sexual tension between us. I felt at ease talking about wanting to do things with men and with her encouragement I have had a few mutual masturbation encounters (and let a man suck me briefly), which I had no problem telling her about.

Among many sexual things we did, I masturbated in front of both of these women. It was a gradual build-up to become comfortable, but eventually it led to me jacking off to naked men having sex (men only) in magazines or videos (some of which was given to me by these women for my arousal), while they watched.

Anyway, the point is that I love women, but only think of men in a sexual context: I love watching gay/shemale porn, engage in mutual cock play every so often, and continue to fantasize about doing more. Its about the cock not a relationship.

[52fantasy]

This term is new to me and very comforting. The thought of a loving relationship with a man is repulsive. But I have always fantasized about sucking another man’s dick. Never have but it may happen.