Masturbation wihout orgasm

[blackboxer500]

It’s not uncommon to see comments in the forum that go something like this: I began playing with my cock at a very young age but didn’t start masturbating until I was older.

I know what this means, that they didn’t start giving themselves orgasms until later, probably because they had been too young to cum, or didn’t know that there was such a thing. But as one interested in language, I sometimes pause to ponder the distinction.

Looking at online dictionaries, and converting their technical definitions to the vernacular, some dictionaries just say that playing with yourself (for erotic or sexual purposes) is masturbation, with some adding a qualifier to the effect of “typically to orgasm.”

When I sit on the couch with my hands down my PJs to rub my cock, but for whatever reason am not trying to cum, who all would consider me to be masturbating?

I am doing it for erotic pleasure, usually while looking at porn or reading ST, but I’m not (necessarily) trying to orgasm. Sometimes I just do it somewhat absent mindedly.

I think of this as masturbation but would like to hear all viewpoints. If you wouldn’t call it masturbation, do you have a term for it?

[rosco1]

I am so happy to read this because that is exactly what I enjoy. I touch myself for hours releasing beautiful oxytocin and endorphins into my brain and brings enormous erotic joy. I go weeks or months without cumming because I knew that after ejaculation, I would lose interest in stroking and enjoying those feelings. I don’t call it masturbating, but I don’t know what it is called either.

[wheelboy2]

All this sounds like me. To me it's all masturbation whether I come or not. I do it many times daily but due to age and medications only come maybe every 2nd day. And I like masturbating without orgasm as that stops the good feeling of playing with my cock for a few hours.
I can't go go weeks or months without coming like Rosco can. I wish I could as the orgasm would be incredible but I'm addicted to the feeling of an orgasm. I'm gently feeling my cock right now through my lounge pants and it feels great.
Doing it gently out on the front porch with just the tips of one or two fingers on the frenulum lets me masturbate out in "public" without being seen. I had an orgasm doing that once and it nearly made me pass out. It was soooo good.

[gmcguy2023]

I personally love to rub my cock and think about sex many times a day. Working remotely from home, maybe it has become an addiction but sometimes I just feel like ejaculating is not necessary (and messy too).
I have written about it before, but I remember spending a good portion of my summer days as a kid just being naked or in my underwear in my room reading erotic stories and looking at nudist pictures on my first desktop computer. I would smear Vaseline on my cock, play with my ass etc. For whatever reason I was not able to cum yet so I had no relief. But I remember my mother constantly walking by and checking on me. She would encourage me to go outside and take a break even though I wasn't certain she actually knew what I was doing. Why I wasn't allowed to keep my door closed and have more privacy... I have no idea but those were the house rules at the time. As soon as I figured out that I could cum I would always do it as fast and as many times per day as possible.
Now I love being being in the gym sauna and discreetly rubbing myself or being on the phone with a close female friend of mine talking about sex and whipping my cock out. I think she is doing the same thing but I don't orgasms in in these situations.

[wanklover]

I am going to take you to the other end of the spectrum. Now that I am old i suffer from ED problems and have to take the blue pill's to get an erection. However although I can always manage to get hard I can't always maintain it and often fail to orgasm. I still enjoy the pleasure of masturbating even if I don't cum, I just have to accept it.

[russ195]

I don't always need to orgasm to enjoy rubbing myself. Especially after I have worked outside, a bit tired etc. I can sit on the couch nude and just gently play for a while. Very relaxing. It's not with the intent of orgasm or getting that worked up, but more relaxing than anything.

[wheelboy2]

I masturbated today without orgasm. I asked my wife if I could see her body after she came out of the shower. She obliged, lay on the bed and I felt her tits, opened her legs and took in the fine sight of her cunt. Then I spread her lips uncovering the clitoris and seeing the glistening insides of her vagina. I'm not allowed inside anymore. All the time I was jerking off. Then we switched places - I laid down as she stood over me with tits dangling. She masturbated me as I cupped a tit and her labia. It felt so good to cradle that trimmed hairy bulge in my hand.
But I didn't confess this part - I had already masturbated last night at about 3am while watching porn. Due to age and medications I can't come twice in 24 hours but having someone feel and wank my cock still feels incredible. That doesn't change. I helped her fasten her bra and that always gets me an extra feel of the tits. That's my payment.

[strokerjim]

If I’m touching my penis I consider it masturbating whether I have an orgasm or not.

[mash2014]

I masturbate daily but reach orgasm maybe once a week or 10 days.

[oldfan]

If I’m touching my penis I consider it masturbating whether I have an orgasm or not.

Me too. I masturbate daily, sometimes multiple times in a day, but only orgasm maybe once or twice a week.

[mash2014]

It’s not uncommon to see comments in the forum that go something like this: I began playing with my cock at a very young age but didn’t start masturbating until I was older.

I know what this means, that they didn’t start giving themselves orgasms until later, probably because they had been too young to cum, or didn’t know that there was such a thing. But as one interested in language, I sometimes pause to ponder the distinction.

Looking at online dictionaries, and converting their technical definitions to the vernacular, some dictionaries just say that playing with yourself (for erotic or sexual purposes) is masturbation, with some adding a qualifier to the effect of “typically to orgasm.”

When I sit on the couch with my hands down my PJs to rub my cock, but for whatever reason am not trying to cum, who all would consider me to be masturbating?

I am doing it for erotic pleasure, usually while looking at porn or reading ST, but I’m not (necessarily) trying to orgasm. Sometimes I just do it somewhat absent mindedly.

I think of this as masturbation but would like to hear all viewpoints. If you wouldn’t call it masturbation, do you have a term for it?

I constantly shove my hands down my pants just to fondle my cock. Sometimes its just to feel around and others because I'm horny. But most of the times I don't rub my cock up and down but just play with it. It's so nice to just touch it, and feel it. Many times I'm in a suit but it makes me feel nice to put my hands inside my pants and touch myself. When I'm in shorts I shove my hands down or come up through to the opening of the leg and touch my balls and my cock.

I love touching myself. I love my cock.

[iammmd55]

It’s masturbation.
Once I was in my 50s, I started doing it too.Very enjoyable.

[bappanadboy]

My search says that any form of stimulation of the genetalia is considered MASTURBATION.
In case of women it is their pussy and in case of men it is their cock that is stimulated.
Looks like all of us here on ST want to pleasure ourselves without any help from another person.

Our society does not treat a man just pleasuring himself as a masturbator. If he is jerking his cock and getting an erection leading to ejaculation, he is called a masturbator or even worse.
When I was young, I wanted to satisfy myself quickly, so I used to jerk myself and watch the foreskin go up and down my cock until I got an orgasm, then I ejaculated.

After retirement in 2006, I had all the time to enoy my cock. Also, it took a long time to get an erection. So, I was playing with my cock using the left hand and doing other activities on my laptop using the right hand. Unless I wanted to ejaculate, that is all I did for hours. So, it was "Masturbation without orgasm" in the opinion of experts.

[truthseeker12345]

Edging is a method of delaying orgasm. If you wanted to, you could actually not orgasm with edging, I suppose. The edging technique can be used by the man to avoid ejaculating before the woman has climaxed. It involves getting aroused through stimulation, backing off on the stimulation and going to a lower arousal level, and then repeating the arousal/backing off cycle. This is repeated over and over again until finally the final arousal with ejaculation is done. Since it takes a woman much longer to climax than the man, it is very beneficial for the man to practice some form of edging. Edging can allow the man to delay ejaculation for 12 minutes or longer. Since the average time for a woman to orgasm is 13 minutes, edging is very useful. Kegels exercises can be very helpful with holding back the orgasm and holding the erection during edging. A big benefit of edging is that, when the climax and ejaculation eventually occur, the climax can be full body and many times stronger than the localized sensation in the groin that comes from not using edging. Sex therapist Helena Nista also has a video that describes the edging process. Kegels also help with the edging process.

[strokerjim]

I believe that any kind of touching of the penis for pleasure is masturbation whether you cum or not. I spend about half of my waking hours touching and fooling with my cock and even though I cum several times a day, by no means do I cum every time I play with my cock. Not even close.

[oldfan]

After retirement in 2006, I had all the time to enoy my cock. Also, it took a long time to get an erection. So, I was playing with my cock using the left hand and doing other activities on my laptop using the right hand. Unless I wanted to ejaculate, that is all I did for hours. So, it was "Masturbation without orgasm" in the opinion of experts.

I do the same every day and am doing it right now. Love playing with my cock whether I ejaculate or not.

[jemstone]

I discovered masturbation solo in bathtub at age 9. Dry orgasms at first, then one day "pow." All through my teen years (I was a virgin when I got married at 21) my favorite way to masturbate was to fuck my pillow. The goal was always an orgasm. By my 20s, I enjoyed taking it more slowly as I read through a Penthouse or the occasional male magazine. I really did not start edging for long periods of time until the 1990s (in my 50s), when my wife worked away from home during the week and I began playing with my cock on cam for others. I had time galore and would edge for hours on cam, not wanting to cum; that would end the pleasure and I liked stroking for men and women. Since then I can edge for hours without cumming. Wife and I are both retired, But I get up very early (4 or 5am) and can edge on cam with bate buddies for 3-4 hours before she gets up. No marrried sex for 14 years now, so I really need the relaxation of a long edging session with my online bate buddies. I host a virtual circlejerk for an hour and, while a few guys cum in the session, most of us (almost all over age 50) edge the entire hour. If the wife is not up by the end of the circlejerk I'll watch porn vids and sometimes find one I want to cum to. It's the journey, not the destination. (Long edging sessions really flood the brain with sex hormones, especially oxytocin, called the "love hormone" by neurologists. Riding the edge for hours keeps the hormones flooding the pleasure centers of the brain. Then comes the "afterglow"-- a term I love.The feeling is strong male bonding.)

[loganseffin7]

Many mornings I wake up hard, or wake up in the middle of the night with a throbbing boner. In both cases, I'll play with it, but usually won't orgasm, because I like to edge for a few days, sometimes a week or two. The last time I did that, I had one of those orgasms where it feels like your dick is pissing cum. So good.

[truthseeker12345]

You are experiencing what is called "morning wood". Also, nocturnal erections are normal. They are, in fact, necessary to the health of the penis. If the penis is not erect, it does not get the correct blood flow.