Why do men crave cock as they get older?

[wisher]

I wasn't sure where to post this but, here goes.

I have been lurking for years and had a previous account where I did some chatting. I can't talk about women because I haven't really seen the same effect, but there seem to be many guys on here who have discovered a craving for cock in their later years (myself included). I know we're a self selecting bunch of randy pervs, maybe not representative of the world at large, but I wonder why that is?

In my case, whether partnered up or not, I have always wanked regularly. I guess it was in my 30s or 40s when I started using mental images of sucking cock and handjobs to help get myself off, and the craving and curiosity has only increased. Sucking cock was on my fucket list and I finally managed it after I retired and moved, in a somewhat risky environment with a couple of strangers. I haven't managed to find someone I know to be a discreet FWB for regular meets, but I live in hope. It was everything I expected, and more. Knowing all the ways I can pleasure my own cock and balls, and all the things "I" wanted, it was easy to close my eyes and get stuck in, licking the head and under the foreskin, sucking it deep into my throat, pulling on his balls and waiting for my first taste straight from the tap. Heaven. I thought I was addicted to cunt secretions but cocks taste just as good.

The guys on here fall into one or more camps as far as I can tell:

1) those who have had the opportunity from their teenage years to wank and suck cock and who have either continued it or put it to one side while raising kids, only to go back to it as they got older.
2) those whose partner has lost all interest in sex, leaving a very horny hubby to look for other ways to get satisfaction. Maybe tugging on a cock, with no emotional involvement doesn't feel like cheating, I don't know, but there are lots of guys willing to give it a go.
3) those (this may be me) who are just hedonists addicted to sexual pleasure in all its forms without emotional aspects being necessary. Trying new things and being curious about the next big hit. It's like a hobby and you can park any social and cultural pressures about being gay or being found out to be cocksucker to the back of your mind as long as you don't get caught. I'm sure many of us, like me were brought up in an era when the slightest sniff of being gay would lead to merciless bullying and ostracisation.

I'm sure there are other categories as well. It might be a load of bollocks what I've said, but I'm just trying to fathom why I am so obsessed with cock as I get older. And why many others are as well.

Feel free to tell me I'm talking nonsense, I'd be interested in hearing why other guys need dick more as they age, all personal takes on this are good.
Sorry, it all turned a bit serious. But at least I know where to put it now

[hairybi]

Wisher has captured in his excellent comments three reasons why men crave cock as they get older. I'm not sure our sexual orientation changes that much, but as older men, we hear the clock ticking and decide to pursue for the first time or again something that excites us. Many of us have sublimated our interests in men for years, many of us through masturbation and porn. Here is my response to his three observations:

1. As a teenager, I did have the opportunity to wank others and suck cock, but put it to one side while married and raising kids. Of course, I traveled for work, and while out of town, pursued men.

2. I am an early widower, so obviously I no longer had a partner, and sex slowed down with my wife after the kids and her menopause and illness.

3. And I'm a hedonist, with a very high sex drive, that has tried most every sexual situation one can imagine.

I now have a male partner, who is also a widower, who also lived two lives. So I guess I fall into all three camps.

Thanks again, Wisher, extremely well written.

[wisher]

Wisher has captured in his excellent comments three reasons why men crave cock as they get older. I'm not sure our sexual orientation changes that much, but as older men, we hear the clock ticking and decide to pursue for the first time or again something that excites us. Many of us have sublimated our interests in men for years, many of us through masturbation and porn. Here is my response to his three observations:

1. As a teenager, I did have the opportunity to wank others and suck cock, but put it to one side while married and raising kids. Of course, I traveled for work, and while out of town, pursued men.

2. I am an early widower, so obviously I no longer had a partner, and sex slowed down with my wife after the kids and her menopause and illness.

3. And I'm a hedonist, with a very high sex drive, that has tried most every sexual situation one can imagine.

I now have a male partner, who is also a widower, who also lived two lives. So I guess I fall into all three camps.

Thanks again, Wisher, extremely well written.

Exactly the thoughtful, personal response I was hoping for, thanks hairybi

[iamnaked]

18 to 80,
Blind, crippled or crazy,
Holes or poles,
I plead insanity judge,
I’m just crazy bout that stuff !
,
Getting pussy always took some effort.
Getting cock needed only a place and a few minutes.

[rathb69]

The guys on here fall into one or more camps as far as I can tell:

2) those whose partner has lost all interest in sex, leaving a very horny hubby to look for other ways to get satisfaction. Maybe tugging on a cock, with no emotional involvement doesn't feel like cheating, I don't know, but there are lots of guys willing to give it a go.

3) those (this may be me) who are just hedonists addicted to sexual pleasure in all its forms without emotional aspects being necessary. Trying new things and being curious about the next big hit. It's like a hobby and you can park any social and cultural pressures about being gay or being found out to be cocksucker to the back of your mind as long as you don't get caught. I'm sure many of us, like me were brought up in an era when the slightest sniff of being gay would lead to merciless bullying and ostracisation.

It started in middle age for me. I always felt I hadn't done as much sexually as other people and then I got involved with two women who helped me push the envelope. It was not only the things we did, but sharing their same sex history and fantasies (all sorts of fantasies!) encouraged me to share my MM fantasies and then play around with men.

Beyond that, for the most part, 2 & 3 are it for me. I enjoy masturbation, which is how I found this site, but when in the mood its relatively easy to satisfy my desire to jack off around other men or play with cock. For some reason I don't feel guilty about it like I have, to some extent, fooling around with other women.

Given a choice, I would opt for hot experienced women in their 20s & 30s with maybe a few young guys 18-22 thrown in for variety. My current real focus is pleasuring myself through masturbation, mostly in private but sometimes out and about. The times out and about occasionally include giving into my urges and engaging in cock play with similar aged like minded men, the biggest thrill and best orgasms coming when other men see/watch me jack off or see me watching gay porn or live bjs while openly stroking my erect penis.

[mash2014]

I was touched at age 10 by a man. I wasn't sexual back then but I felt good with someone touching me. I've been wanking nonstop since age 12 with an extremely high sex drive to the point that I managed to bend over and suck my cock. I had crushes thinking of other kids but my sexuality was and still is female-oriented.
Later I sucked cock and although it was the wrong person it left something within me about the desire for cock.
I've craved cock ever since and more openly in my late 40s.
Currently, in a sexless marriage and I guess it has taken me on the route of becoming a hedonist. I want to feel that sexual excitement again but I want cock maybe because I man knows how and what I want to feed can make me feel.

[wisher]

Currently, in a sexless marriage and I guess it has taken me on the route of becoming a hedonist. I want to feel that sexual excitement again but I want cock maybe because I man knows how and what I want to feed can make me feel.

I like this story:
https://www.solotouch.com/story/lovely-ladies-in-wet-blouses-74993
which tells how two older single guys become friends, have a mutual appreciation of beautiful women they see out and about, and agree that they miss sex but can't be bothered to chase and date women. One event sees them get horny and get their cocks out which leads to a mutual cock sucking relationship. Spoiler, Solotouch plays a part .

Now, at the start of the friendship neither of these older straight guys dreamt they would end up wanking and sucking each other off but it's just the natural progression of two horny men who want maximum pleasure with minimum fuss. And yes, knowing that another guy knows what to do with their hand (after all they've been practicing on themselves for 50 years plus) and mouth; another guy knows all the right buttons to press and what speed to go at. As you say, another man knows what you want and what you need. Truly it's one of life's simple pleasures.

[wheelboy2]

Currently, in a sexless marriage and I guess it has taken me on the route of becoming a hedonist. I want to feel that sexual excitement again but I want cock maybe because I man knows how and what I want to feed can make me feel.

I like this story:
https://www.solotouch.com/story/lovely-ladies-in-wet-blouses-74993
which tells how two older single guys become friends, have a mutual appreciation of beautiful women they see out and about, and agree that they miss sex but can't be bothered to chase and date women. One event sees them get horny and get their cocks out which leads to a mutual cock sucking relationship. Spoiler, Solotouch plays a part .

Now, at the start of the friendship neither of these older straight guys dreamt they would end up wanking and sucking each other off but it's just the natural progression of two horny men who want maximum pleasure with minimum fuss. And yes, knowing that another guy knows what to do with their hand (after all they've been practicing on themselves for 50 years plus) and mouth; another guy knows all the right buttons to press and what speed to go at. As you say, another man knows what you want and what you need. Truly it's one of life's simple pleasures.

This ^^^^

[spunkluvr]

It didn't come with age. I've craved cock for as long as I can remember.

[blackboxer500]

The older I get the less critical it is that my sex partner (or fantasy sexual object of desire) have a vagina. I like a lot more than just intercourse but for medium and long term relationships, I wanted a female partner.

As I get older my fantasies include a much broader array of sexual partners and practices, and a vagina is not needed for all of them. I have always liked to see ejaculating cocks, and handling and sucking one sounds delicious.

In other words, I am no longer driven by such massive amounts of natural testosterone as when I was younger, so sticking my cock in something doesn’t have as much urgency as it once did, and that slowing down lets me appreciate more than vaginas I can fuck.

[stroke2]

The older I get the less critical it is that my sex partner (or fantasy sexual object of desire) have a vagina. I like a lot more than just intercourse but for medium and long term relationships, I wanted a female partner.

As I get older my fantasies include a much broader array of sexual partners and practices, and a vagina is not needed for all of them. I have always liked to see ejaculating cocks, and handling and sucking one sounds delicious.

In other words, I am no longer driven by such massive amounts of natural testosterone as when I was younger, so sticking my cock in something doesn’t have as much urgency as it once did, and that slowing down lets me appreciate more than vaginas I can fuck.

Well said blackboxer yes it feels like a very natural and easy progression we go thru whether its acted on or just in our fantasies stories porn and playful bicuriosity!

[oldfan]

Because cocks are wonderful to play with, be it my own or another man's. And you get rewarded in the end with a great display of warm, wonderful whiteness!