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Delayed Ejaculation

Postby jimmyl55 » Tue Apr 04, 2017 1:14 pm

I'm in my 60s, and after decades of a very normal sex life with my wife, I find that I'm beginning to have delayed ejaculation problems. I get a nice erection and fully aroused, but occasionally I it takes much longer than normal for me to ejaculate during intercourse. Eventually, my wife who still enjoys sex very much, will get exhausted from her orgasms and so we stop.

I explained to my wife it had nothing to do with her (she thought I didn't desire her any more). Since then, when I have a delay, she will assist me with masturbation. But even that can take a while.

Just wondering if any other guys have this problem and how their wife or partner helps them finish? Or do you just masturbate solo later on?
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation

Postby applehead » Sun Apr 16, 2017 6:46 pm

I'm 69 and thought the same but I do masturbate often, and edge. My thought on this was don't masturbate or have sex for week or so, if you can. Then get into it and see if it makes a difference, kind of like a kid going without candy. I have nt had sex in a while, wife lost interest, so I jerk off, but I would bet the next time I get the chance to slide my cock into a wet pussy, I'll robably cum in less than a minute. This is just my thoughts. YMMV
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation

Postby mushroomhead » Sun Oct 15, 2017 9:07 am

The only thing I can relate to this is that for the past few years, a woman, no matter how good she is, cant get me off by just giving me a blowjob. Me just sitting or standing there while she sucks my dick just wont do it, even though it feels so good. She will have to do a combo of mouth and much hand if she wants me to cum. I think this is due to the amount of masturbation that I do that it takes more than just a mouth with me standing or sitting still. Now, if I were to fuck her mouth, then the undulations that I make would help, but most dont like that, because they want to be in control, and maybe that is part of it as well. I have no problem cumming in any other way, but just a blow job with no movement from me just wont get it done.
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation

Postby insatiable » Tue Feb 13, 2018 7:36 pm

It's a surprisingly common issue... and from what I am reading, it's becoming more and more prevalent. I am 32, and I have experienced it for the past few years consistently. There are many different factors that can contribute to delayed ejaculation: medications, masturbation technique, stress, porn usage (yes, I know it's a little taboo to say, but depending on the person and situation this can be a legitimate cause/component), health, attraction levels to partner, confidence, etc.

Since I was a teen first exploring with a partner, I have not been able to orgasm by anything other than masturbation or sex. Until very recently, I could only cum by masturbating. I discovered it was a combination of things for myself: masturbation style, medications, and stress. By trying to cut out as much stress as I can and taking a moratorium from masturbation, I have been able to improve things. Sometimes I will go weeks without masturbating, and at most I'll only masturbate once or twice a week. When I do masturbate, I do so differently than I used to (lighter grip, slower, less porn usage, etc.)... and this has enabled me to start cumming during sex (although it can still take me a while to get there). I am frustratingly unable to cum from a handjob or blowjob.

It's incredibly frustrating. Thankfully it hasn't caused a problem for my partner and I, but I can understand why and how that would happen. I have also started to include prostate massage into J/O sessions and in sex/fooling around with my wife, and that has actually let me achieve orgasm from handjobs. It's not 100% of the time, but it is incredibly satisfying when it happens.

Some people will think that having delayed ejaculation is almost boastful...like we are bragging that "I can last a long time"... but it can really be a problem. I'd give anything to be able to cum during a blowjob or handjob; or even sex without as much effort as it takes.
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation

Postby kevinwhales » Tue May 29, 2018 11:50 am

Indeed, delayed ejaculation is a common men's issue that caused by several reasons. One which is the most spread is a lifestyle. The lack of natural coition and permanent masturbation. To these reasons, smoking and drinking may be added. So, we have delayed ejaculation or in the worst case erectile dysfunction. Especially it happens when you are 30+.
But also delayed ejaculation may be because of some illness. So, the question is: can masturbation cause erectile dysfunction?. The answer within.
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