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Delayed Ejaculation

Postby jimmyl55 » Tue Apr 04, 2017 1:14 pm

I'm in my 60s, and after decades of a very normal sex life with my wife, I find that I'm beginning to have delayed ejaculation problems. I get a nice erection and fully aroused, but occasionally I it takes much longer than normal for me to ejaculate during intercourse. Eventually, my wife who still enjoys sex very much, will get exhausted from her orgasms and so we stop.

I explained to my wife it had nothing to do with her (she thought I didn't desire her any more). Since then, when I have a delay, she will assist me with masturbation. But even that can take a while.

Just wondering if any other guys have this problem and how their wife or partner helps them finish? Or do you just masturbate solo later on?
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation

Postby applehead » Sun Apr 16, 2017 6:46 pm

I'm 69 and thought the same but I do masturbate often, and edge. My thought on this was don't masturbate or have sex for week or so, if you can. Then get into it and see if it makes a difference, kind of like a kid going without candy. I have nt had sex in a while, wife lost interest, so I jerk off, but I would bet the next time I get the chance to slide my cock into a wet pussy, I'll robably cum in less than a minute. This is just my thoughts. YMMV
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation

Postby mushroomhead » Sun Oct 15, 2017 9:07 am

The only thing I can relate to this is that for the past few years, a woman, no matter how good she is, cant get me off by just giving me a blowjob. Me just sitting or standing there while she sucks my dick just wont do it, even though it feels so good. She will have to do a combo of mouth and much hand if she wants me to cum. I think this is due to the amount of masturbation that I do that it takes more than just a mouth with me standing or sitting still. Now, if I were to fuck her mouth, then the undulations that I make would help, but most dont like that, because they want to be in control, and maybe that is part of it as well. I have no problem cumming in any other way, but just a blow job with no movement from me just wont get it done.
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Re: Delayed Ejaculation

Postby insatiable » Tue Feb 13, 2018 7:36 pm

It's a surprisingly common issue... and from what I am reading, it's becoming more and more prevalent. I am 32, and I have experienced it for the past few years consistently. There are many different factors that can contribute to delayed ejaculation: medications, masturbation technique, stress, porn usage (yes, I know it's a little taboo to say, but depending on the person and situation this can be a legitimate cause/component), health, attraction levels to partner, confidence, etc.

Since I was a teen first exploring with a partner, I have not been able to orgasm by anything other than masturbation or sex. Until very recently, I could only cum by masturbating. I discovered it was a combination of things for myself: masturbation style, medications, and stress. By trying to cut out as much stress as I can and taking a moratorium from masturbation, I have been able to improve things. Sometimes I will go weeks without masturbating, and at most I'll only masturbate once or twice a week. When I do masturbate, I do so differently than I used to (lighter grip, slower, less porn usage, etc.)... and this has enabled me to start cumming during sex (although it can still take me a while to get there). I am frustratingly unable to cum from a handjob or blowjob.

It's incredibly frustrating. Thankfully it hasn't caused a problem for my partner and I, but I can understand why and how that would happen. I have also started to include prostate massage into J/O sessions and in sex/fooling around with my wife, and that has actually let me achieve orgasm from handjobs. It's not 100% of the time, but it is incredibly satisfying when it happens.

Some people will think that having delayed ejaculation is almost boastful...like we are bragging that "I can last a long time"... but it can really be a problem. I'd give anything to be able to cum during a blowjob or handjob; or even sex without as much effort as it takes.
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