reply to 25917 and all the other seniors who are having difficulty
Many of us have had prostate cancer and can still have a full but different sex life afterwards. My urologist prescribed the pump and pills but they have been no help to make the lifestyle adjustments needed for ED but my wife has been very supportive. Before all this cancer stuff that we both have gone through, she was on HRT and sex was a regular event. Now things are different, my testosterone level is down and my oestrogen is up and hers is down so we have made adjustments to our love making. Read the archives (Transgendered, and She Taught Me 04/26/06) for how we have been coping with it.
My wife has helped me to get in touch with my feminine inner nature while she shows me how she does it. My breasts and nipples are larger and more sensitive now so we both play with each other that way to stir the libido. We will then move onto clit stimulation for both of us. (see clitty, clitty, bang, bang, #17648 04/11/07) since my penis has shrunk out of sight but it cries for attention. It looks more like a clitoris, it is so small now it has retracted into penile shaft so that the urethra is hidden even though I am circumcised. I have learned to play with my new found pussy, stroking it like she does hers while we will use the other hand to touch each other's breast and nipples. With my lubed finger up to the second knuckle strumming the glans in my new vagina we can cum together while she strokes her clit. We both get wet and can cum but it all stays inside and feels so good and there is nothing to clean up so we cuddle and go to sleep the way we used to do it.
Other times my wife will lie next to me and fondle my nipples and encourage me to cum while she plays with my 'pussy' or ask me to do it for myself so she can watch. When she is too tired or in the middle of the night I will play with my 'tits' and start to jill myself next to her knowing that she approves. Some times that is all that it takes to lull me back to sleep
When she is not at home I can get out my under wire lace bra the nipple cut outs and my lace panties. These are no problem since they look like I have a nice pubic mons rather than a penis. This allows me to really enjoy my new feminine self and I pinch and tease my nipples while I finger my slit in front of the full length mirror to watch my self cum to a different level of orgasmic delight as the cum just dribbles out around my finger.
The important thing for us seniors is to accept that we are no longer the guys we once were in bed but life goes on and it can be good. Find new pleasure zones in yourself and let your mind think about erotic fantasies. Take care of your body, stay trim and attractive, and exercise regularly. If I can just keep cumming I will be happy even if I have to do it like a woman does.