How I learned to stop worrying.
I discovered masturbation at age 22. It was right after a break-up with a somewhat unpleasant female partner. The first time it was somewhat painful and mysterious, but at the same time extremely gratifying. I was able to completely control the unfolding experience in my mind. I was able to re-call many women I've had encounters with in the past vividly recalling the most intense moments with each one of them. Adding my own wants and darkest desires that I harbor. It was the beginning of the most intensely gratifying sexual relationship in my life. It was a strictly sexual, anytime relationship with myself. It's there anytime I'm ready, and gone when I'm finished.
In retrospect, we guys are very rational and well-thought human beings, we just make dumb decisions based on the need to get our rocks off. Its hard-wired into us. Ladies have the need too, but not NEARLY as frequently as guys. I reviewed my past choices in girlfriends and how many of them were based on sexual attraction and appearence alone. I've dated some very beautiful women in my time, but usually end up dissatisfied at the end of the day. I am not a self-serving individual, but very caring and very giving.
Guys everywhere need to do themselves a favor and masturbate before making any major life-changing decision. In my profession I've met countless associates who got married at their sexual prime to the sex partner of their dreams only to find LIFE together without constant coitus really sucks. Divorce is not an option because the woman would end up with nearly everything. Cheating is not an option, because being caught in the act would again lead to a divorce and the wife taking everything. The best these poor saps are left with is their memories, golf, a sports car, and masturbation in secret.
I have my golf. I have my sports car and motorcycle. I have my cash in the bank. I have my masturbation. My girl-friend is a successful engineer. She knows about it, and loves the fact that I can out-last her in the bedroom due to continued practice in masturbation. I'm also much more attentive to her needs, since I've already gotten the baby batter off the brain.
Perhaps we'll marry. Probably in the next three years. No hurry. We have a relationship of understanding and respect based on other things than primal sex, although primal sex does happen.
To my peers, get a bottle of lotion and your memories of your ex's and try self sex therapy. Do it without external erotica like playboys or porn first. Discover how completely self-fulfilling your own mind can be! You owe it to yourself.