You should learn to love yourself... I use this technique because it is full of fun and recommend others to do so.
I lock my room, lay flat on my bed and begin thinking about some sexy man besides me... with gentle touches throughout the body, slowly remove the shirt, then the pants and finally play with the cock whilst in the undies.
Get naked with the thoughts and begin gentle rollings in the bed with pleasure.
Have gentle massage on your cock and begin slow strokes with it.
Go on to powerful strokes and reveal that load out!