Why do so many men get aroused by a verbal sexual partner? I have a theory...
Sometimes I play here in the SoloTouch chat rooms. I meet somebody who has similar tastes in masturbation and sex and we have a private conversation together. Some of the conversations are about techniques -- "Have you tried this?" "What do you think of that?" On other occasions we act out a fantasy, typing and sharing a story in the chat session -- "You arrive to my hotel room, I open the door wearing nothing but the white cotton robe the hotel provided. You enter, I close the door, drop the robe. I'm naked, you're fully-clothed and you reach out and take my cock into your hands..."
In these fantasy sessions, dialogue can get pretty heated too. It's when we're 'talking' that our brains get extremely aroused. One thing I've come to realize is that most men really like a verbal partner, especially in chat. And it's not all raunchy banter, either. Men (me included) like a range of verbal emotions and "Baby Talk" is one of the more powerful verbal cues. Baby Talk would encouraging words like, "You want to cum for me, Baby?" or "You like that, huh? Does that feel good when I ride our cock?"
Where does this desire come from?
Baby Talk: The cooing, nurturing sounds probably trigger our earliest memories of being cared for by our mothers. That nurturing, unconditional love came with the sound of a soft voice. Years later in bed, when men are fawning over a woman's breasts and she she says softly, "You like my breast, baby?" it must trigger all kinds of warm emotions, a dose of oxytocin in the brain, for sure. "You want to cum for me, baby? You can cum on my breasts." Those words and the soft tone are powerful for men. They want to be accepted, loved and they want to orgasm with words of encouragement. And they need to know that their masturbation isn't something to always do alone with a quick clean-up, but instead it's a beautiful expression, a release of pleasure, to be shared.
Even when I'm in a man to man private chat, I tend to play the role of the nurturing partner. When he finishes, I say something like, "Wow! Good job. Very nice." It doesn't matter that I'm a guy, we all have our sensual sides and men can certainly appreciate what another man's orgasm feels like. And after an orgasm for men, there's a sudden drop in sexual desire. We're done, time clean up and go -- but you could encourage your male partner to wait, relax, bask in the glow of the orgasm. Remind him how beautiful it is.
Agree? Disagree? Ladies, does nurturing talk work for you as well?
Author:AllHands | Category: Masturbation Male Techniques
