My journey to being able to have effortless endless orgasms

 

My journey to effortless endless orgasms began almost 9 years ago. I'd been getting more and more disappointed with sex as a man. Seeing my wife have several 30-second orgasms while I tried to hold back from having my one 5-second orgasm seemed unfair.

Everything about how men could last longer and supposedly enjoy sex more had to do with stopping all stimulation, taking yourself out of the moment and letting yourself cool down. Some suggestions were along the lines of thinking of the ugliest woman you could to take your mind off your excitement. That never really sounded like much fun to me.

I started investigating and found sites describing how men could have multiple orgasms. They all were basically the same thing - stopping stimulation and squeezing just before the point-of-no-return. I tried this several times but, again, stopping stimulation and concentrating during what is supposed to be a sexually stimulating time was, well, kind of anti-climactic.

My investigating also brought me to sites describing prostate orgasms. Super orgasms that you could just sit back and enjoy for
minutes over and over without having to stop stimulation. I wound up finding out about the Aneros products and gave one a try. While I did manage to get to the point that I had pleasurable feelings with the Aneros, I never felt anywhere close to orgasmic.

I do believe that the Aneros opened my mind though. Making the transition from thinking orgasm and ejaculation are the same thing is huge. Just getting past the idea that sex is all about stimulating the penis with a stroking motion until you ejaculate is something that I think is rare. Both men and women are limited in their sexual satisfaction because of this.

I began researching more about other erogenous areas and discovered a few spots in my pelvic area, including my perineum, which brought really good feelings. I got to the point that I could lightly rub a couple key areas and within 30 seconds I would be spasming with full body orgasms. 

With a very different idea of sexual pleasure than a typical male, I opened up to viewing sexual pleasure more for what I was feeling rather than what I was doing. I lost interest in porn that was all about a hard bang and a cum shot to porn that was more intimate. Since my orgasms were no longer centered on my penis and realizing my experience may be more like I imagine a
woman’s to be, I even started imagining myself being the woman in the intimate porn. I've become pretty fluid in which role I imagine myself in when watching porn.

At some point, the penis base/perineum method stopped working for me. It may be because I got more into using vibrators to stimulate those areas. For years I would use a vibrator placed lightly on the spot where my flaccid penis would sit on my scrotum. This technique would give me amazing orgasms that could last anywhere from a few seconds to several minutes. Many of them were full body, out-of-this-world orgasms. If I had enough time, I could literally go on for hours having probably over 50 orgasms.

As time went on I started just using my fingers to rub the same area. Starting with a little lube or my saliva I could usually have my first orgasm in less than one minute. I'd use the precum from the first orgasm as lube for my next orgasm. Again, the fun could continue for as long as I had time or until I was eventually exhausted.

For years I would alternate between using a vibrator and fingers. I'd use a vibrator almost exclusively for a couple months and then realize again how good it felt with just my fingers. After a couple months using my fingers, I'd realize again how good it felt with a vibrator.

Throughout all this time, the orgasms were amazing. Way beyond any pleasure I ever felt with an ejaculatory orgasm. Just knowing you can have more makes each one more pleasurable. The orgasms were always quite dry with quite a bit of precum.

As far as partnered sex is concerned, I've never been able to have multiple orgasms during intercourse. I do enjoy it a lot more than I used to but when I feel an orgasm coming on, it's always a full ejaculatory orgasm and I just don't feel like trying to stop it. With oral sex, however, I can go on and on having dozens of dry orgasms.

For about two years now I've been using my fingers exclusively. I've gotten so good at it that I can always have my first orgasm
with one minute and the orgasms usually last at least 20 seconds. Sometimes the orgasms flow from my groin up through my torso into my arms and then to my head and I feel like my body is producing some amazing drug that makes my mind feel incredible.

 Other times the orgasms remain centered in my groin and are indistinguishable from a full ejaculatory orgasm as far as the feelings I have. I experience almost the same pulsing and pumping feelings and sometimes I even have to check to make sure I didn't actually ejaculate. Sometimes the orgasms are slightly milder but they last for a several minutes non-stop. I can usually choose which type of orgasm I want to have based on my feeling at the moment and I usually switch it up to experience each type of orgasm several times in a session. Given enough free time, I can literally masturbate for hours having dozens and dozens of orgasms. I do feel exhausted afterward but it still doesn’t have the same drain as ejaculating even once.

The dry orgasms feel so good, have such variety and can just keep coming that I just don’t feel the desire to ejaculate anymore. On rare occasions, I’ll get so worked up that I wind up ejaculating and I’m always disappointed when I do because I know I may have only one or two more small orgasms before I’ll lose interest.

 

Author:Multiman | Category: Masturbation Male Techniques

I'm mostly flaccid pretty much the whole time I masturbate. With my penis laying naturally on top of my balls and a little to the left as it is when I sitting or laying down, I use my middle finger positioned between the right side of my penis and my scrotum and the tip of the finger about at the top of my penis. I rub in a kind of stroking circular motion. Unless I'm having a really bad day, that elicits good feelings instantly. I usually have a few smaller orgasms within about 2 minutes. Those orgasms produce precum that I wipe off with my middle finger and use for lube. That lube really increases the good feelings and I'll usually start having much stoinger orgasms immediately.

My technique has changed over time. Lately, I find that when I feel an orgasm coming on, I switch to using my whole hand to rub my penis and balls from the base down toward the end of my penis. My penis gets harder but not really erect. I only rub down. When I get to the end of my penis, I release and bring my hand back to the base and rub down again. For me, it's important to include my scrotum in the motion for the orgasm to really take off. If I just stroke my penis and don't include my scrotum, I wind up getting fully erect and then all my sensations are in my penis and if I let that feeling keep going, I start to feel like just stroking it the way most guys do. Some times that winds up with me ejaculating (and abruptly ending the session). Other times I can actually continue to stroke the old fashioned way and have dry orgasms over and over.

I know this sounds like a lot of work/thinking but I don't even think about it when I'm doing it. I'm just trying to go through it, thinking about what I actually do so I can describe it. I'm sure everyone responds different. Even I have responded different to different things over the years. I think the most important thing is to stop making the goal to ejaculate. Find something that feels good more internally rather than just on your penis. Feel those feelings inside, add some porn/erotic thoughts and enjoy. When watching porn, think about what the actors/actresses are feeling inside their bodies, not just on the surface. Once you realize you can have an orgasm without ejaculating, you can easily move on to have orgasms that feel better than ejaculating and you can have them over and over again without loss of desire or energy.

I find this vvery interesting as im sure other are as well so your saying the area under your penis where it meets above your nuts.. in easy terms lol

Pma01984: I don't think I'm in to pain or anything that over stimulates. When I used vibrators, I only liked ones that I could adjust down to a very low rumble. The fast, buzzing ones didn't do much for me and seemed to actually reduce my sensitivity. I don't like any lubricants that have chemicals that are supposed to accentuate your sensations. I much prefer just the simple feeling of my fingers with my own precum. I love to fantasize about being penetrated anally by a woman with a strap-on or by a man but anytime I actually use a dildo anally by myself, it feels good but doesn't bring me anywhere near an orgasm. Although, as I said in my post, I enjoyed my wife using a vibrator on my anally so I'm sure, at least for me, being penetrated by a partner is much more arousing that doing it myself. I keep coming back to the realization that the orgasms can't really get any better than the simple technique I use. I often think I should try something different for variety but nothing gives me as many orgasms that are as intense for as long as I get them as the ones I get simply using my fingers.

silverorgasm: Are you asking me or Pma01984 about the technique?

Tell us your technique I wanna try

I will tell you that how I thought it was for years just a quick 3 second orgasm and that was it, I was married for 8 years, my xwife would not not masturbate with me, she wouldn’t even watch me, she freaked out when I suggested it.in all reality our sex life was miserable we did intercourse and oral, I liked the oral me doing her, not so much of her doing me, as soon as I came she ran to the bathroom to spit it out, I could never suggest trying something new.
After I my divorce is when I started to explore different options to enhance my masturbation, masturbation became my only source for sexual pleasure and that turned out to be the best thing I ever did, I have no desire to look for a sex partner.
Have you ever tried self spanking, that opened up a whole new world to me, I realized I like some pain, I have used Ben Gay on my genitals I love the stinging from that, I have also found.nipple play and nipple clamps as well, I hope I didn’t freak you out with this stuff. I would like to know more about what you are into