Having masturbated on cam for more than three decades now, I have some thoughts about male bonding.
For some years now I have hosted an hour-long virtual circlejerk for online bate buddies. I am bi, married, and I am in a good marriage, but no sex for 16 years and I knew I am bi at age 10. I was a virgin when I got married at 21 and I have masturbated to male stories (here) and images throughout the marriage.
Enjoying the male online circlejerk for many years now, I have some thoughts to share.
First, it is amazing to me that even online masturbating with other men is such a strong male bonding experience. I do have some good male friends in the "real" world, but I would have to say that most of my male friends are in the virtual circlejerk. The room often has between 20 and 30 guys and 12 on cam at a time. Some bate buddy friends join the circle every day; some join us a few times a week. It is clear that this virtual gathering is as important to them as it is to me. Some of the guys cum on cam; most of us simply edge and chat the entire hour, enjoying the feeling at the edge without cumming. The anonymity means that we can talk about things we would never bring up face-to-face with a male friend. We can describe our past sexual experiences, some very young. We can describe our current sexual lives; many are like me, married, bi, but no sex with wives or partners. Sometimes we share sexual fantasies. There is no judgment about what members of the circle say. It is a "safe" space for chat because the strong male bonding and anonymity make it so.
Second, I am amazed that a virtual circlejerk can stimulate such strong male bonding. I can imagine that masturbating with one or more males in person can be a very strong male bonding experience, even if we did not touch each other. I finally figured out why. One of the sex hormones that floods the pleasure centers of the brain while masturbating is oxytocin, often called "the love hormone" by neurologists because it makes possible pro-social behavior and group bonding.
Third, my wife does not know I have been masturbating on cam for others for decades. Strangely, I do not feel that the virtual circlejerk is "cheating" on my wife, though I realize that she might not agree. Still, the male bonding is not the same as would be romantic attachment, which would be "cheating," by my reckoning.
These are my thoughts about the virtual circlejerk. What do you think?
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