Sex-Ed - Masturbation

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Is it right to include masturbation as a subject in the earlier years at school.
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Absolutely - It is a part of Human Sexuality - Masturbation helps people discover what pleases them and how to get fulfillment from sex
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I totally agree that it should be included.
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Most definitely. I had puberty/sex ed classes starting in like grade 6 (11 or 12 years old). It included lessons about puberty, sex, and yes they mentioned self pleasure.
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Sure, it would have been nice to know that I had a clitoris before I was 15 :|

That being said, now that the internet is such a big thing, I don't really think that teachers need to provide ALL the information; I think it would be best for them to sort of give a general overview of things while encouraging how normal it all is, make the kids read some educational websites (like Scarletteen), and then answer any questions they have at that point. Asking questions like that surrounded by your peers and a non-judgmental teacher would be awesome, I think.
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Tripfantasic, it would have been nice to know that girls had a clitoris before I was 15 too. I'm sure it would have made it more fun for some of my girlfriends during some of my early fumbling attempts! :lol:

I was taught the majority of what I know now for both playing with myself and others by a girlfriend who was a couple of years older. She guided me and taught me lots of things for which I (and subsequent girlfiends/partners, I'm sure) am eternally grateful.

I think it should be taught along with sex-ed as it's all part of it isn't it?
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"I think they should teach it from 11 years old, just when most people discover it, children shouldn't be exposed to sex too young."

Yes, but while one person is ready at 11, others may not, and some people don't agree with it for religious reasons, so the topic gets left behind and not discussed.

But also, yes, with the internet, a person can easily ask questions and find answers when they find a need and/or are ready to know the answers.
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School might be a good place to learn reading, riting, and rithmatic, but I don't want some gov't approved sex ed curriculum forced on my children. I know what I think about sex, and I also know that very few other people feel similarly. I don't want my children to be taught something I know to be false.
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There have been countless studies on the health and well being benefits of masturbation in all age groups, from adolescent to people in their 90's. Although our government will quote these institutions in their agendas on many other matters, they shy away from even discussing masturbation or its benefits.
When our then Surgeon General, Jocelyn Elders, suggested that we include masturbation in sex education to our children as not only a healthy habit but a safe alternative to penetration sex, she was ostrasized and removed from office. At least she had the guts to recognize the validity of these studies.
Granted, the best place to learn about masturbation, and any sexual practices, is at home, but many parents are either too unwilling or uneasy about discussing it or they are uneducated about it themselves.
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Yes, the information is very important.
We are sexual since when born : fetus masturbate..
Dont confuse i wanna told with abuse , each stage is diferent and kids sexuality doesnt mix with mature sexuality,

Give information and respect privacity and intimacy.
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Pleasuredoc - I totally agree. Children develop at different rates, and for the most part, children are ready to start learning about things - anything, from science and morality to sexuality and death - when they start asking questions. These questions will almost always be directed at parents - in theory. Unfortunately, I think that kids pick up on much more than a lot of people realise: a parent who demonstrates awkwardness or discomfort during very early conversations about nudity and where babies come from are likely to subconsciousnessly teach children that certain topics are 'wrong' or taboo. Then, of course, when those children hit puberty and start to develop complex sexual feelings about themselves and others, they have no-one to turn to.

In general, we in the west (okay okay, maybe not 'we' as in the people on here, but still) have a weird relationship with sexuality. If we can help the next generation unlearn it, that'd be great.

Disclaimer: I talk about this topic having no children of my own, bear in mind!
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Of course it should be taught to children. Masturbation is natural and healthy. Having grown up in a sexually repressive and prudish family where sex was never discussed and masturbation was very taboo and dirty, I can truly say that it had some adverse effects on my thinking about sex. Being rebellious as a teen and masturbating a lot helped, but I still went through the early years of my adulthood with guilt feelings about "pleasuring myself". No child or adult should have to live through and bear this guilt. Boys, grab you cocks and stroke away without fear of being bad or perverted or blasphemous. All men and boys do it at one time or another whether they want to admit it or not!!! Girls, get out those dildos and cum to your hearts content. It will only help you when you get older because you'll know what feels good and makes you orgasm so you can let your partner know how to get you there.
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Masturbation should indeed be taught. In my own youth there was so much misinformation spread by others my own age and it always felt like a dirty habit to be gotten out of the way as quickly as possible. I am sure lots of information is available these days via the web but these are conversations that should be had by parents too. That said my own wife felt very negatively about the act and this caused tension between us.
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Wankerm8 makes a good point about negative opinions creating stress in a marriage. I feel for him because my wife is not accepting of me masturbating any more even though I never denied her anytime she was willing to have sex. I agree with him that parents need to let their sons and daughters enjoy it, know that it is a safe way to keep one's sexuality healthy, and that there are many ways to enjoy it. I am grateful for a mother who relieved me of the shame and embarrassment of it.
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I agree for the need to educate about masturbation. Masturbation is something I've done since puberty and I'm sure by living in this male body that just about every man masturbates too.
Since we humans masturbate and it is part of our sexuality it deserves it's place in sex ed, too. I think it is ridiculous that we are so sophisticated but still very much in the dark about masturbation.
We should be casual about it, like it is just something normal that we do, like it really is. Can you image if we heard from Mom, now Jr make sure you shower and don't forget to clean behind your ears and make sure you masturbate, you know how that makes you feel better.
But no, my Mom was on a witch hunt for my porn mags and would never accept that I was masturbating even though I'm sure she knew. Fortunately for me my wife understands male sexuality. When I asked her if she knew that I masturbate she said I would think you do because guys masturbate. Very casually.
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I don't think schools should teach sex, politics, or religion. People have far too many closely held beliefs for that to ever be successful.

My wife and I are very sexually open as she works for a gynecologist. Our family dinner conversation is often about other women's vaginas. When our daughter "discovered" herself around 8yo, we told her about masturbation, sex, how babies were made, etc. We told her that masturbation was normal and natural but it's a private thing. We know if we knock on her door and she says "I'm not dressed" that she's masturbating and it's the same with my wife and I.

I don't know why some people get so bent out of shape about sex.
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I agree it should be on the curriculum of today. In my day it was a no no and was told it was disgusting , but maybe being brought up Catholic didn't help.
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With the way more and more schools are becoming 'politically correct' it will be difficult to integrate into curriculum. I think it is better handled by parents, especially those interested in their child's sexual health.

I am not an advocate for forcing it upon a child, but when they ask, a parent should take the time and explain whatever they can. Unless a child asks, there isn't much point of explaining things, as they have no real interest.

I took the time when my sons were curious, I can share experiences if anyone would like via PM or email.
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Been thinking about this recently. Most of sex-ed is "here are your parts, here are their parts, here's what they do, a boy goes in a girl to share DNA to make a kid, puberty does this to you, etc." but then you get to age 13 and they're like "sex is dangerous here's why know the risks" instead of "so you're probably wondering why people talk about sex like it's more than reproduction, and why high schoolers do it so much". How are you supposed to know about orgasms, reactions, techniques, etc? Teachers should start off with a "yeah, this is why people have sex all the time, if you wanna know more here's some safe approved resources" THEN go into all the protection stuff.
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