I have been married for over 20 years. Our sex life is OK but my wife grew up in a very religious environment and is very reserved in the bedroom. I have masturbated since I can remember, and still do so frequently. Until about a year ago I had never done it in front of my wife. She does not give hand jobs or blow jobs so things are pretty mundane in the sex area.
About a year ago I had a vasectomy which got me thinking of ways I could jack off for my wife without her getting upset. A week after my surgery I informed my wife that I needed to ejaculate, but could not have intercourse for the first couple of times. I said it would be too vigorous so I would need to come without the physical rigors of sex. So on Saturday morning I asked her to help me out by stripping and making out with me while I jacked off. She agreed but kept her panties on. I sucked on her tits and we made out while I slowly played with my dick. I wanted to make this last for as long as possible. When I came it was a mind blowing orgasm with come flying all over the place. I was able to do this a couple more times before we got back to intercourse. Of course I also needed to take a sample in a few weeks later to get the all clear. Before that I told her I had to come at least 3 times a week to clean out the system. Since she wasn't up to sex that often I would get to jack off for her while she was getting her hair curled and her makeup on in the morning. Sometimes it would make her so horny I would get a quick fuck after playing with myself for awhile. This has tapered off and I don't have an excuse for her anymore. Sometimes she will let me get close and have a quickie before work. I also convinced her I should take another sample in after six months and made an ordeal about that. I told her I needed to get close to orgasm for two times a day for three days before actually coming. That way there would be sperm in the sample if there were any kinds of leakage. I never did take it in but she doesn't know that. So guys, the next time you go to the doctor come up with some story about needing to come a certain way or needing a sample to get your jollies.