Prostate surgery does strange things to the body.
The alternative is a lot worse so don't forget to have an annual PSA and digital exam if you are over 50.
I have always been proud of my body and I work out regularly and stay active to keep in shape. My wife and I have always had an active sex life.
During our forties and fifties we had sex nearly every day. In our sixties we slowed down to several times a week. Before Viagra was popular in our early seventies it was at least twice a week and I had no problem with ED.
The jump in my PSA and a biopsy detected prostate cancer. The urologist listed the options: Watchful waiting (do nothing now), Radiation, Prostatectomy (removal of the prostate), or radioactive seed implant. I chose the latter to prevent nerve damage that is more prevalent with the other procedures. The doctor injected 76 little pellets that look like pieces of mechanical pencil lead into the prostate through the groin. The surgery was quick and easy, about a three-hour stay in the hospital and the next day I returned to my normal activity including making love to my wife.
Gradually over the next year things began to change in my sex life. ED was more common and the doctor prescribed all three of the ED pills to see if there was any improvement. The results are still sporadic but that wasn't going to stop us from lovemaking. My wife has always been able to have great orgasms, one right after another by masturbating. I could still cum even if only half hard so we would do it together. As time went on I no longer could even get half hard with pills, let alone keep it up enough for penetration. As I watched her rub her clit, I tried the same with my soft penis. The next thing I knew was that my penis had retreated back inside of me. Admittedly it has grown smaller with the advancing years and some times disappears in my briefs but now it feels good when it is inside.
So that leads us to a new phase in senior sex. I have learned to rub my new 'clit' and I can even get two fingers up my cunt. While these changes have been taking place my breasts have enlarged due to gynecomastia as a result of lower testosterone. My nipples have always been sensitive and now are more swollen and I fill an A cup. I love to have my wife play with my titties while she watches me finger myself the same way she does herself. The excitement is still there and I love to suck her nipples and then tease her clit. I put one finger in her and one in myself. I no longer cum with the usual spurts of semen but it doesn't make as big a mess either.
After all these years of macho sex I'm beginning to learn how to enjoy my feminine side and develop an appreciation of a softer side of sex. Just because things don't work the way they once did is no reason to quit some of the greatest pleasures in life. Sexual enjoyment is an important part of our being, beginning with our earliest memories and hopefully until we depart this life. Keep cummin'.
Perhaps a new category for Senior Solo Sex would be interesting and helpful to hear how others are keeping up a vibrant healthy sex life in the Golden Years.