It wasn't until my late twenties that I discovered the difference between jacking off and masturbating. Anyone can jack off but after developing a freeing attitude and openness can you know how to masturbate. Taking time was the first lesson that I discovered. Masturbating involves cumming but the means is always as good, if not better, than the end. Play with your penis while still in your underwear. Enjoy the sensations of it growing as it rubs against the underwear cotton. Take time to admire the tent that emerges as you reach full erection. Spend time caressing your balls and ignore your penis for awhile. When you finally touch it, the sensations are wild. When you take your underwear off, the erection springs to attention and, again, the feelings emerge fully. I have to be naked when I masturbate. Any other way is just jacking off or getting off. The pleasure, sensations and unbelievable feelings come from involving yourself in masturbating. Run your fingers around your chest and thighs, feel your feet and allow those feelings to creep up to your crotch. You'll be amazed how your erection is sustained by touching other parts of your naked body. I love to slightly touch my penis. Light, gentle rubbings all around it just drives me wild. The urge to stroke is present but I keep it at bay by focusing on the touchings to my penis and balls. In short form, my balls get short and tight. The sensation from your balls get heightened the more you play with them gently and let the feelings fill you up. I'm sitting here now naked with my erection smiling up at me. It pulsates and moves a little as I type to you. When my hand returns to my penis from the keyboard the feelings begin again all over. Pacing yourself like that helps alot. When you finally decide that you wish to climax, then the stroking begins more deliberately but prior to that the enjoyment from your penis in allowing yourself to masturbate and not jack off is well worth it. Enjoy yourself and thanks for reading this.