Although in the form of a 'story', I hope to address 'Anon' and other women with similar concerns
Men love to masturbate, and now after reading this site, I see that many women do as well. I am now also convinced that many men share my fantasy of masturbating with a woman...watching and being watched. I think the intimacy of this is unmatched. I am thrilled to know that some women also share this fantasy....see 'archives', 2002...'Watching and listening...the ultimate'. 'Anon', I have a feeling if you masturbated for your husband, many of his needs for other outlets would diminish...or here's another idea...look at his sites with him and masturbate together. I think this is an untapped source of sexual pleasure that is safe and easy. I have no doubt that he loves you, and you him, so enjoy each other!