Thanks for posting my letter and sending me the responses. They have confirmed the fact to me that I need to do this and that it will be ok if I do. I wanted to do it last night but chickened out. But tonight I have a plan. Lately he has been only doing it for about five minutes then he stops and masturbates on his bed. So tonight when he stops I'm going to ask him to keep going, then I'm going to ask him if I can return the favor(!).
I'll let you know how it works out so that you can pass it on to those who gave their advice. I think your web page is so important, without it I would never know that so many other people have had the similar experiences and that they turned out ok.
Thanks again, TH