The experience I'm relating here is more of a complaint, and a request for suggestions.
I started masturbating around age 11, and almost every day since. Some where along the way I developed the technique of stroking with one hand while with the other I'm pressing my fingers into the area just in front of my anus. It made my orgasms more full and intense and I seemed to come with a greater quantity of cum when I did this. I didn't know why it felt good, it just did. It wasn't until after I was married that I found out that I was stimulating my prostate.
Soon after we were married my wife was giving me a hand job. Instinctively I moved a hand down below my balls and started pressing my prostate as she stroked me. She snapped, 'What are you doing! Are you fingering your ass?' I responded, 'No, it just feels good when I do this.' She informed me that she preferred I didn't do it while she was playing with me and she wasn't willing to do it for me.
After that incident I did some reading and discovered I had been stimulating my prostate, and that's why it felt so good. I shared my discovery with my wife, partly to show her I was normal and also hoping to revisit it in our lovemaking. But it didn't make a difference.
I've come to regret it when my wife suggests giving me a hand job. I much rather get myself off with my own hands. At times I've tried internally massaging my prostate, inserting just one finger to the first knuckle to massage my prostate.
During my 18 years of marriage, I've asked her a few times about adding prostate or anal stimulation to our love making. But, she isn't willing to do it. This is frustrating but my main complaint is with the fact that she has developed a love for anal stimulation herself. She commonly doesn't come unless I have a finger up her ass. She loves complete stimulation. For example last night, she came while I was sucking on her clit, with two fingers up her pussy and one up her ass. Two nights before that she was playing with her clit using a vibrator while I had my cock inside her. We had been going at it for a very long time and she said, 'It's been going too long, I don't think I'm going to be able to come.' That's become my cue. I reached a hand below my cock and searched out her anus. It was wet from her juices and I slowly started working my finger inside her. A few seconds later I had my whole finger going in and out of her ass and she comes wildly.
I just want the same treatment. Her excuse is that she knows I like playing with her ass, which I do, but she doesn't want to play with mine. So I take care of myself.
Any comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.