I'm not a stranger to sex. However I never lost my virginity until I was 23 and well, to say the least, it was a moment that I'd LOVE to forget. Since then, I have only been with four other men.
I'm 30 years and I'm a plus sized woman. I can bring myself to orgasm but I had NEVER been able to have one with a man. I was starting to think that there was something wrong with me. Don't get me wrong, I had a twinge of something once but I don't know if it was a size thing or if I started to think but then it was gone. I had tried to relax, not rush, take my time but it didn't seem to help.
The most recent man I have been with is a very considerate lover. He always ensures that I have an orgasm either by stimulating my clitoris or fingering my vagina. Even when he cums first he never forgets my needs.
He is the first man to introduce me to a position where I am free to lie on my back with my knees bent up in the air and the soles of my feet flat on the bed. He lies to my right side. He lays on his left side, with his knees bent and under my legs. From this position, he can suck my nipple and finger my clit at the same time.
He uses a condom every time without question and he says this helps him last until I cum. I can reach down with my hand and open my lips or rub his cock or even finger myself. He does not feel threatened by me bringing myself off, and this has done a lot for my self esteem.
He constantly compliments my breasts, hips, and belly even though I am larger than he is. We have wonderful dates that usually but not always end up with orgasms. At first I would not allow him to leave the lights on or see me undressed but over a period of months I have come to trust him.