During our university days Ruth enjoyed me masturbating her. This started with me 'petting' her thru her clothes, then eventually getting my hand down the front of her jeans. Then I progressed to masturbating her to orgasm thru her underpants, then gradually getting her pants down just far enough to penetrate her comfortably with a finger.
I enjoyed being fully erect for a long time, and would relieve myself later, when I arrived home.
There was a brief hiatus while I went off and 'sowed my wild oats' with other women, but I did not enjoy vaginal sex as much as I thought I would. The attraction to Ruth's mind and her body was very strong and I returned eagerly to her.
By now she had graduated and was working as a writer. She often invited me over to spend Friday evenings with her, and our physical relationship developed as those spring nights went by. Finally one hot summer evening she invited me to cool off with her in her outdoor jacuzzi tub. There she masturbated me to a welcome orgasm, then repeated the performance later the same evening as we lay naked together on her bed.
We tried intercourse twice before we were married. She did not enjoy it because she was so worried about becoming pregnant. She had already decided that she did not want to have any children, and I was indifferent to children. She would not go on the Pill and did not trust other methods of birth control.
We enjoyed each others' bodies so very much that we decided to marry and forego penetration sex. We both still masturbate, either solo or together, but we most enjoy pleasuring each other. We talk about what we want, and give lots of verbal feedback during our sessions. We have been married 31 years now.