Christians need to know that jacking-off is virgin protection.
Let me start by saying I am proud to be a 100% USDA prime 26-year-old virgin. I work as a church youth worker. I am writing this because so many churches condemn jacking-off, I am not one of those poor Puritans. Now don't get me wrong I think jacking-off is a gift from God that is to be used to protect virginity, but I think that guys should stay away from porn and keep their hands to themselves - like other Christians who have posted to this site.
My story begins with a British foreign exchange student that was living with one of our church families. This guy came into to my office right after school started two years ago and said, 'You damn yanks are so stupid.' He went on to tell me that he was a virgin, but that he was a daily wanker and was rather proud of the fact that he enjoyed wanking and keeping himself for his future wife.
When he moved in with his foreign exchange family, he found out that he would be sharing a room with Paul the family's high school junior. Matt, the Brit, told me that he did not mind sharing the room, because he had always shared a room with his twin brother, Rob. What he did mind was Paul's reaction the first night when the lights went out. Matt asked Paul, 'How often do you wank?' Paul being a good little Puritan let Matt know that good Christians do not wank. Matt thought to himself, 'shit, this is going to be a long school year.' Matt knew very well that Paul wanked, just like every other God created guy.
After Matt shared this story with me I decided that I had to do something about this with the guys in my youth group. The church's pastor is just a couple of years older than me and he is married, but he sees nothing sinful about jacking-off. I went to Bob the pastor and told him about my conservation with Matt. Bob told me that he and I would meet with the dads of the church and open a dialogue about jacking-off. A couple of Saturday's later me had a wonderful meeting with these dads and told them that we would like to meet with their sons during Wednesday night youth group and talk about guys' need to jack-off, rather than being guilt ridden over it. Things also went well that night.
Matt came back to my office and told me that he and Paul had developed a great relationship, best friends, and jack-off buddies. The Wednesday that we talked with the guys at church about jacking-off Paul and Matt had a good long discussion about the subject. Matt's dad had told him that jacking-off was God's way for him to remain a virgin until his wedding night. Paul's father had never said anything to him about jacking-off. He got his belief that jacking-off was a sin from a book he read about virgin protection. Paul said that it made a lot more sense to use jacking-off as virgin protection, rather than guilt building. Paul went ahead and admitted to Matt that he probably jacked-off as much as Matt did, he just never let himself enjoy it thinking that it was wrong. That night Paul got his hidden lube out of his night stand and the two of the jacked-off in that room every night for the rest of the school year.
I shared with Matt to stay away from the porn and that he and Paul should always keep their hands to themselves, he replied 'No problem mate we aren't queers.'