Love your site and your insight. Just read the pleasure bashers article & can greatly identify.
Personally, I was only able to overcome that "don't touch yourself there" phobia within the past year. I won't give my age, but will tell you that I am a grown woman.
I think often of that song "if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with". I'm with myself ALOT! It's amazing how a bit of self-love can raise your self-esteem. In the past year, I've lost 25 pounds. I'm not consciously doing anything differently. It's all attitude. I just realized I don't need the weight anymore. I like who I am & I don't need to hide it. Realizing that my sexuality was healthy and unburned sexual energy was not, I now take time to celebrate myself, body and soul.
But do you know how hard it is at work when people ask me how I lost the weight?! I mean, what do you say?: the masturbation diet plan?!