Since the time I can remember, I have enjoyed masturbating. My ex-wife thought that sex, any sex, was for creating children and for that purpose alone. Needless to say, during my marriage to her, my masturbating was done solo and very discreetly.
However, freedom day came and I am now remarried. My present wife enjoys love making and often tries new things (although I think they are new to me but not to her). Having had a less than satisfying sexual relationship with my former wife, I was timid in sharing with my present wife not only my desire to masturbate but to have her watch me.
Since the beginning of our relationship, my wife has brought me to orgasm by giving me a hand job. One day she was giving me a hand job and I just could not come. I asked her if she would just rub my testicles. She did and it felt so good. I then grabbed the shaft of my penis and began rubbing it. I asked her if my action bothered her. To my surprise she said no and added that she was actually enjoying watching me. I had no problem coming after that statement. From that point on masturbation was a part of our love making.
Shortly after that experience, I learned that she enjoyed masturbation and wanted me to watch her. What a thrill! We soon began doing other things like her filming me masturbating myself (she has not yet decided if she wants me to film her). We also share fantasies of friends watching us enjoy each other as we mastubate one another or go solo. Overcoming the masturbation hurdle has led us to be more open about our anxieties (i.e., my penis being small at 4.25 inches, her desire to always have young looking breasts). Our discussions about our anxities have resolved many of them.
My reason for sharing this story is to encourage younger readers to make sure they are sexually compatible with the person they want to marry or they may end up being very unhappy.