I have been masturbating now for many years and still enjoy that private time. I have been married now for 30 years and my wife has recently been overcome with a serious illness which affects our sexual time together. We are fortunate to have sex once every two weeks and so I fill in the extras with self-gratification. I struggled for a long time as I felt it was unfair to my wife. I finally sat down with her and confessed to her that I, indeed enjoyed masturbating. To my surprise, she said that she fully understood, but would ask one thing of me.
And that was when I did masturbate, I would do it in bed with her beside me so that she could watch or assist if she could. Since then, I masturbate at least three times per week with her beside me and my orgasms have never felt better.