How *I* like to masturbate:
I'm 25. I can achieve clitoral orgasm. Generally, via my own hand, but once or twice by another's hand and once by cunnilingus. I enjoy sex without orgasm, but as far as masturbation goes, I think I've learned something. I've been doing a lot of reading lately on the sexuality web ring, and I tried a "tip" in erotic massage:
The setting was good - no disturbances, just me on my bed, alone. I've got a good ole fantasy cooked up which I'm *almost* ready to act on, so I slipped my panties off and began gently caressing the mound above my vaginal opening with one finger. (That "tip" was to wait for an invitation before attempting penetration. When the body wants penetration, it makes that desire known.) I continued my caresses to include my labia, down to the perineum, but not penetrating. (BTW, I didn't have any lubricant available.) Every now and then, I'd gently rub my clitoris, but only for a moment before going back to the gentle caresses.
After about 5 minutes of this gentle persuasion, I was physically aroused to the point of definite wetness, so I slipped one finger inside - just a little - and then back up to my clitoris. Gee, after doing that for a few strokes, that starts to feel -really- good. I don't think I've ever felt the inside of my vagina so warm, fleshy, and HUNGRY as this time.
Something new happened for me, though, because it made more sense to move my pelvis to work the friction between my clitoris and vagina, and move my pelvis I did. -Wow-. Now, this may seem like old hat to other women, but I have the sneaky suspicion I've been cheating myself for the 10 years I've been sexually active. During sex, I've always raised my legs all the way up, and my poor clitoris has been sadly neglected. Why didn't anyone ever tell me to keep my feet down????
G-spot orgasms are still a mystery to me, but I'm reading up, and I'm going to enlist the object of my fantasy to help me get those mysterious orgasms, yes I will. :)
Virginia - 8/18/2000