As a single mom, I have had to learn a lot about males and their needs. Communication at home has been a life saver for learning about this.
My name is Cindy. I am 46, single mom of Thom, my 18-year-old son. I have been divorced for 14 years. Thom and I have had great communication as he has grown up and we have been able to talk about anything. I have taken a lot of single parenting classes and learned a lot about teen males along the way. One of the things that was stressed in a class was that kids should not have locks on their doors. This avoids them feeling safe to try drugs, smoking or alcohol while locked in their rooms. Unfortunately it also ended up meaning as Thom got older I would walk in on him masturbating. After several times we needed to talk about it. I gave him the 'it is natural, guys need to do it often, don't be embarrassed speech'. It seemed when I would go to get laundry or empty his trash, I sometimes was interrupting his masturbation times. I was at a loss to figure out how to handle this until I begin to do some online research (found Solo Touch) and some chatrooms where I could ask males questions about parts of this I didn't understand.
This led to more discussions and an agreement that if I walked in, he would ignore me and continue, and I would not be embarrassed and would ignore him, get what I came for and leave. He has a 'special' towel next to his bed for the results and I change it out every other day. I have been in there when the towel was in use !!!!! He knows I look, he understands I am a little curious but I try not to interfere. We have gotten to the point that I can ask him questions about his plans for the weekend or whatever and he can answer and maintain what he is doing without seeming to lose his concentration. He understands that this is still a private thing and not to be done outside of his room, even if it is just he and I at home.
Thom has never seen me masturbating or heard me I don't think. I usually wait until he is asleep at night (I tend to moan a bit when I orgasm) or I rub off on the drive home after work. He does sometimes see me partially dressed in the mornings but I think he is old enough now not to feel awkward about that and certainly he can 'let off steam' if it should be arousing. Many of the men I chatted with online said that while they sometimes thought of their moms when they masturbated, it never led to aggressive behavior. The moms I chatted with had mixed opinions on what is the least that a mom can wear at home without being too arousing. Most of this is not something covered in 'How To' parenting books so wish me and the other single moms good luck. We need it. This is something that until you have a teen male, you never knew guys did it this much.